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Are you a techno-geek? Apps galore on your phone; trawling through reviews of the new iPhone? Or are you a closet (or open) Luddite, who recoils at the very mention of technology? You’re still using your turntable and you pine for the days of the rotary phone. Whichever you are – you’re probably somewhere in between – the digital revolution has transformed your life. It’s done the same for all our lives. It’s not hyperbole to say that the advent of the world wide web has had an impact as great as the invention of the printing press and the internal combustion engine. I imagine a conversation between my present self and my former self if I visited him while he was a teenager in the late 1970s. It would go something like this . . . “Hello Past Me.” “Hello Future Me! So what’s in store for me? I was watching Tomorrow’s World last night and they tell me we’ll all have personal robots soon. Does yours do the cooking and cleaning?” “We-ll, gotta tell you, robots didn’t quite pan out.” “Oh, that’s disappointing. Jet packs to get across town?” “Not so much.” “Just better hoovers and lawnmowers? Thought we could manage a bit more than that.” “Oh, you don’t know the half of it.” “Oh yes?” “See the phone on the wall over there? Gone. Now we carry our phones with us wherever we go.” “We have those already. Cordless phones. Nothing new there.” “No, not cordless. Mobile. You can call your mum from the top of a mountain.” “O-kay . . . wow. That is very cool.” “You can text with your phone too.” “Text? You lost me.” “Short digital messages from one phone to another. And the computers that fill a room here in the 1970s have been reduced in size. A lot. They’re down to the size of a briefcase and they’re called laptops.” “Laptops?” “Personal computers. We often use them to do our shopping.” “What?! Shopping from home? No more trips to Woolworths and BHS?” “Yeah, about those shops, they don’t have a great future. Get ready for the names Primark and Sports Direct, but mostly get ready to order everything online.” “Online? You keep on inventing new words.” “Podcast. Netflix. Bandwidth. WhatsApp. Email. There are some more, but online is the important one. It’s when you’re connected to a vast network of digital information, so you can share videos, play all your music, create photo albums, talk to your friends. Oh and companies like Amazon sell almost anything. Next day delivery. Right to your door.” Silence. “Richard Past? You’re looking pale . . . are you okay?” “Sorry. Er, so no more . . . letters? Ph-phones you carry . . . with you. Music and shopping on a computer? I just . . . how is that even possible? And Amazon? Never heard of it.” “Oh you will. The owner’s going into space next week. So anyway, get used to the word “download” and companies like Apple, Facebook and Google. They’re the biggest companies in the world. And a bit of advice. Take out some shares in a company called Zoom.” [Richard Past passes out.] “Past Me! Wake up! I haven’t told you about pausing live TV yet!” How things have changed. The digital age has altered not just the methods we use to communicate, but even the way human beings relate to each other. No more letters. No more crackly phone calls. No more waiting for the six o’clock news. Connection During the pandemic, I have re-connected with some university friends I hadn’t seen for over thirty years. Seeing their faces every few weeks on a screen has filled me with joy. Social media enables us to find old school friends, share photos and videos, and support causes important to us. We’re connected in ways that only a couple of decades ago would have been unthinkable. Yet some studies indicate that many are lonelier than ever. But that’s not my focus today. Choice You can order almost anything from anywhere. It will be delivered within a few days. Why shuffle along a line of shelves offering hardware when you’ve got Screwfix? Why pay Waterstones prices when you’ve got Amazon marketplace? Billions of products at the touch of a button. No wonder we’re overwhelmed. But that’s not my focus today either. Convenience The sheer convenience of it all. So much within touching distance, yet what impact is it having on our lives and the lives of those we serve? This is my focus today. Our digital economy has changed the way we view our lives, and what’s important to us. There is a relentless push towards more choice and convenience, and this impacts how we view our spiritual lives. Show me where in the Scriptures Jesus teaches that a priority for his followers is to create for themselves a more convenient life. You won’t find it anywhere. But don’t think I’m straying into Luddite thinking. I’m not. I’m writing on a laptop, having just texted my wife. My music is playing on a Bluetooth speaker. Later, I will order a memory foam mattress to ease the pain of my aching back. No traipsing around shops, just a browse online, and a few clicks. Instead, my concern is the broader impact of technology on how we view Jesus’ invitation to a life with him. The With-God life, as Dallas Willard called it. Slow and Relentless First, God takes his time. He is slow and relentless. The Israelites spent forty years in the desert. Abraham waited twenty-five years for Isaac. Jacob waited fourteen years for Rachel. (Even seven would have been hard.) The Jews waited hundreds of years for a Messiah. God is not in a hurry, and the spiritual giants of the past attest to how long growth takes. Convenient? Quite the opposite. It’s a long, at times bitter but rewarding path, and convenience has no part in it. Jesus’ Call Second, convenience was probably the furthest thing from our Saviour’s mind as he walked among us. He wept and sweated and bled among us. He experienced disappointment (see my post on Disappointment), he was deserted by followers and abandoned by friends when he needed them most. Convenience? That wasn’t a consideration when he called people to follow him with these immortal words: If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul? Matt. 16.24-26 Technology makes life easier and more convenient. Discipleship moves us in the opposite direction. It calls us to sacrifice our time and resources for the sake of our Lord and those we serve. It’s not convenient to sit with an addict or care for the children of immigrants while their mother seeks advice. It’s not convenient to forgive someone who’s hurt you. It’s not convenient to give up a summer holiday to serve in a kitchen at a camp for teenagers. Nor is it convenient to establish disciplined habits of prayer and bible study. The call to discipleship, however, is never a stick to drum up more volunteers. If you’re prone to cajoling your congregation, playing the “guilt” card, or lamenting publicly why so few volunteer, you won’t find ammunition in Jesus’ words to use on your targets. That’s because the cost of discipleship is paid from the reserves of a heart saturated with the love of God. Convenience is shunned by followers who respond to God, who make the choice to give up their lives gratefully and sacrificially. Because they have grown to recognise the voice of God calling them. Like sheep who recognise the voice of their shepherd. Because they have grown in the grace and knowledge of God. That’s discipleship. And that’s why you can’t download God. Every time people fill your church building, they bring with them digital voices tempting them with ever increasing convenience and comfort. Yet the one thing they need most cannot be downloaded. Because you can’t download God. To follow him, you must take up your cross. Cross over convenience. Hour after hour. Day after day. Year after year.

Today, a look at two powerful words: zeal and awe. First, zeal. Here’s a definition: Fervor for a person, cause, or object; eager desire or endeavor; enthusiastic diligence; ardor. Fervour. Eager desire. Enthusiasm. Ardour. Are you moved yet? Because you should be. They all lead to that over-used word, passion. And so I turn to one of sport’s most enduring icons: Basketball legend, Michael Jordan. He, along with others, gives life to our first word, zeal. What is it that sets apart the great from the highly talented? Zeal. Determination. Drive. Inside the truly great sportsmen and women, there resides a will to win that burns like a fire. It never goes out, it is there all the time. It blots out all other pursuits and interests. Great sportspeople never settle for defeat. They dig deeper, train harder, fight harder to achieve their goals. Losing hurts so badly, they never want it to happen again. Michael Jordan’s drive to win is legendary. It is, to many observers, what sets him apart. Yes, he was very talented, but then so are most players in the NBA. He had something extra. Zeal. Determination. Drive. Desire. Passion. Though it’s now disputed, he played in a game known as The Flu Game in Utah in 1997. It’s sometimes called Pizzagate. Jordan ordered a pizza the night before a critical game in that year’s playoffs, and, as recounted in the Last Dance documentary, it gave him food poisoning. Whether it was flu or food poisoning will never be known. What is undeniable is that Michael Jordan was very ill during the game. He was sweating profusely, covered his head with a towel on the bench, and struggled to run up and down the court. Nevertheless, he managed to lift himself in the second half, ending with 38 points, and carrying his team to victory. That’s what great players do. They overcome adversity. They don’t give up. How? Zeal. Whether you like it or not, the Bible is the story of one vast, millennia-long struggle. It’s a fight. There are conquerors and conquered, victors and vanquished. No wonder many of us love sport so much. And at the centre as the mightiest of all mighty ones is God himself. Victor. Warrior. Supreme in battle. How does he treat his enemy? Hear St. Paul’s words. And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross. Col. 2.14 He triumphs over them by the cross. He does not travel to Jerusalem to cast out the infidel. He does not call his people to fight the Romans. His victory is earned in blood. His own blood. And as his followers, we demonstrate our zeal by fighting with him and for him. We give up our lives for him. Hear the power of these lyrics from Our God Reigns by Delirious: Yes he reigns, yes you reign, yes you reign, For there is only one true God, But we've lost the reins on this world, Forgive us all, forgive us please, As we fight for this broken world on our knees. As we fight for this broken world on our knees. What passion! What drive! What zeal! Hear now Isaiah’s words. Of the greatness of his government and peace there will be no end. He will reign on David’s throne and over his kingdom, establishing and upholding it with justice and righteousness from that time on and forever. The zeal of the Lord Almighty will accomplish this. Isaiah 9.7 Our God is zealous. He is determined, committed, driven by his desire to establish his kingdom. Can you feel the passion? Let it ignite a fire inside you. So how should our zeal be expressed? Zeal is simply the drive and determination to love God with all of who we are. It’s a burning desire to do his will, to see him glorified in every sphere of our lives. And it is produced by our second word: awe. Awe A definition: An overwhelming feeling of reverence, admiration, fear, etc., produced by that which is grand, sublime, extremely powerful, or the like. A growing bank of research shows that awe is good for us. Here is a list of some of its benefits.* Improves your mood Good for your health Helps you think critically Decreases materialism Increases humility Improves time perception Produces a generous spirit Makes you feel more connected to others If scientific research supports the idea that awe is good for us, it’s not just a good apologetic for our faith but a reason why so many areas of life point to God. It seems we’re made for awe. Not just at a football match or in an art gallery, but in the many, varied experiences of life. What produces awe? Not just sport, though sport produces many moments that commentators describe as “jaw-dropping.” Here’s a list that begins with some of my favourites, but takes you further. A Roger Federer forehand A Lionel Messi mazy dribble A Ronaldo headed goal A Michael Jordan fadeaway jumper A Hamilton over-take A Mozart sonata Almost any painting by Rembrandt The Sistine Chapel ceiling Edmund Hillary, Tenzing, Ernest Shackleton (one of the truly great leaders) Nelson Mandela Neil Armstrong Moses and Elijah A supreme act of kindness A sunset A butterfly An ocean swell A literary masterpiece A Shakespeare . . . anything. Anything at all. A newborn's fingers A weightlifter’s muscles Volcanoes, mountains, rainforests The cell The night sky I could, of course, go on. The entire list is a pale reflection of God himself – his majesty, his beauty, his goodness and love. Each one in this list echoes to the wonder of his grace towards us. Where does our zeal for God come from? It’s not from justice or peace or even love. It’s not from the desire to put things right, do the right thing, or build the kingdom of God. None of these things are sufficient to ignite zeal within us. Instead, it comes from a vision of God himself. God alone inspires awe that leads to zeal. For he is truly awesome. Worthy of our awe. Our worship. If your zeal ever flags, there is only one place to go to re-ignite it. Awe. You need a fresh vision of God, whose majesty and beauty are beyond our ability to conceive, our language to express. Take some time to worship him today. You will soon find your zeal for his glory set on fire so that it burns bright until close of day. * Source: Greater Good Magazine – Science-based insights for a meaningful life. 2018. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/eight_reasons_why_awe_makes_your_life_better

We hope you had a good summer. We're back! Once a week. Every Thursday. Here's our first post from Richard Collins It’s not just the rich and famous who “get press.” We all do. For most of us, it’s not others who are writing, but we ourselves who write our own press. We write it in our hearts and we carry it with us during our daily lives. No one else reads it; we alone know what we’ve written. And God, of course. What is our press? It is all the beliefs we hold about ourselves. They are beliefs that we order into varying levels of importance. When we think about who we are, we often betray what’s important by the questions we ask. In reality, these questions tell us very little about who we are, but we ask them anyway. Here are some: What do you do? Where do you live? How big is your church? Are you married? Do you have children? Where did you go to university? Is your church multi-site? Have you written a book? Let me first state that there is absolutely nothing wrong with these questions. They are asked routinely in order for us to get to know others. Please don’t stop asking them at conferences and when you meet new people. However, there are dangers with them, which must be addressed. In answering them, we give their answers power to define us. Big church means I’m doing well, I’m successful. I went to Oxbridge so I’m obviously very bright and well-connected. The new church plant means I’m a success. By contrast, now that I’m struggling in my marriage, that means I’m a failure. Let’s just stop for a moment and ask how God sees us, how he defines us. I will never forget some wisdom I received from a friend at university. He said this, “you know, Richard, the only thing that really matters to God is who you are when you’re alone with him.” I’ve never forgotten that, and it is why I encourage you to hold the presses. Don’t believe your own press. It will kill you. Never think that because your church is growing, or your children are doing well, or your book is praised, that somehow those things define you. The writer, Henri Nouwen, once gave a talk (with teaching materials for a half-day conference) in which he spoke about three ways we define ourselves. Here they are: What I do What I own What people say about me The dangers inherent in all three are clear to see. And they are especially dangerous to people pleasers. I was listening to Tim Keller the other day and he pointed out that church leaders often seek affirmation. It was a gentle way of describing people pleasers. People pleasers get lost because they don’t just seek affirmation, they crave it. At worst, their identity and their sense of self rise and fall on other people’s words. That is a disaster. Just how reliable are people compared to God? (See our post on disappointment) Be very careful when you hear encouragement, for while encouragement can lift your spirits – and that’s good – it can also deceive you. It can pull you away from your true sense of identity. “Great sermon, pastor!” “So enjoyed visiting your church, Rev. Tom. Your congregation is growing. Well done!” “Heard your son just qualified as a barrister. You must be proud.” “Your daughter is going to theological college? You must be a proud parent.” “Are you speaking at Keswick/New Wine/Spring Harvest? Well done.” I’m a good leader – my church is growing. I’m a good parent – my children are professionally successful. I’m being asked to speak – I’m a talented communicator. Don’t get me wrong, you may well be a good speaker or a good parent or a faithful husband and leader, but if you’re getting that from your press, then you’re looking in the wrong place. Others don’t define you. Nor do they value you the way God does. And their words, though they may lift you, will never, ever have the power of . . . The truth of who you are. Only God knows who you are. And still loves you. Your spiritual life, the person you are becoming, may well find expression out there in the world – the way you live – but that person is not described by achievement or connection or task fulfilment. One day we will stand before our God and we will see him, and he will look into our hearts and he will extend grace to us because, in truth, we only draw breath because of his grace. So hold the presses. Be careful when people speak about you, not because they’re wrong, but because it’s foolish to invest their words with power when only one Person’s words truly matter. Alone in a room. A Bible on your lap. Door closed. When you close your eyes and spend time talking and listening to your God, that’s who you are. No more. No less. No platform. No awards. No “many years of faithful service.” Just you and God alone enjoying each other’s company. That is enough because God’s favour towards you is enough. It’s one of the reasons why we at Living Leadership are determined to stress the importance of rest. We believe that taking time off for a retreat, making time for solitude and silence, prioritising the inner life – these are essential to a healthy spiritual life. Only when you find your true identity in that quiet intimate space between you and God will you find peace. The other voices are chatter. The only press worth its salt is the press that comes from the mouth of God. He writes about you, “My beloved child, the apple of my eye, whom I love more than words can express, you are safe within my care. Saved. Forgiven. Called. Loved.” At last. Press that actually tells us the unvarnished truth. Press that’s worth burying deep in our hearts. Hold onto it and draw on it during the day. As you serve the One who defines you and gives you life.

When was your last big break? I don’t mean the time when opportunity knocked, and someone opened a door for you into your dream ministry role or the longed-for maximum score of 147 in a frame of snooker. I’m talking about a significant period away from your usual working routine. When was the last time you took a fortnight off? Since joining Living Leadership in April 2019, I’ve listened to dozens of leaders describing their work and life patterns. I’ve been impressed by their sincerity and sacrifice. And I’ve been saddened at their hurts and woes. I’ve also been surprised at their unhealthy life rhythms. Or, at least, I would have been shocked had I not been a serial offender on the same point myself, who has needed the rebukes of wiser people than me. I’ve written before in this blog about the importance of a weekly Sabbath. I’ve noted that even many leaders who take a Sabbath weekly seldom take longer breaks. Some have felt unable to take holidays during the pandemic. Some thought the weekly service production machine would grind to a halt without them. Others have told me that their congregation or denomination expects them to preach unless they’re away, so no travel meant no break. Still, others have no excuse that I can see. They’ve just never booked two weeks off at once. I’m sure that’s because of a mixture of noble motivations gone haywire (over-investment, saviour mentalities, love turned possessive) and ignoble ones (insecurity, control-freakery, lack of faith) left unchecked, but, whatever the reasons, the result is often disastrous. So here are three reasons why you need at least a fortnight off every now and then: IT’S GOOD FOR YOU I can’t be the only person who finds that a week off just isn’t enough for me to fully refresh. If I’m off for a week, I spend the first half winding down, and the second half winding up again. If I’m off for a fortnight, I have a whole week in the middle when I can be properly switched off. I think this is universally true when your work entails caring for others, bearing their burdens, and thinking incessantly about complex issues. A proper break lets you come back with fresh vision and a lighter heart. I learn to live again so that I can do out of being rather than be out of doing. IT’S GOOD FOR YOUR FAMILY The value of a prolonged break in my work for my wife and children – and even my parents – is incalculable. The patterns of ministry life entail sacrifice for your family. A big break allows payback for that loss and it’s an investment in those who are closest to you. IT’S GOOD FOR THOSE YOU LEAD Trust me in this – I know it’s hard to accept – but God can do his work just fine without you. Remembering that doesn’t diminish your joy; it turbo-boosts it. And remember there is some (albeit limited) ministry wisdom in the old proverbs that say, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder,” and, “Variety is the spice of life.” A few weeks without you in the pulpit or director’s chair might be just what is needed for you, your church or organisation, and the relationship between the two. So, if you haven’t already, book two weeks off. Two full weeks. Properly off. Not preaching on the Sunday before you go off or on the Sunday after you return (that means three Sundays off). Not off from your main work but doing something equally taxing. In fact, if you can get three weeks or even four, that’s even better! Just take a big break. In Living Leadership, we’ll be practising what we preach this summer. This is the last blog post before a five-week break. (We’re back on 2 Sept.) We’ll continue episodes of our brand-new podcast, Nigel Lee Archive, throughout August, but they’ve been cunningly prepped and scheduled in advance. Our staff won’t be off for the whole time, but our rhythms of work will be different. A big break in the blog will help us achieve that. (It’s especially important for the wonderful Jess Coles, who manages our communications!) Our summer staff meetings will be different too. We’re not tabling any new work, (unless there’s a genuine emergency) we’re just catching up and praying (tip: bad things come from big breaks from praying!) Maybe you can adjust your rhythm of work in the weeks around your big break too, so you don’t have the common scenario of over-work before you go off and after you return. To help our staff team make the most of our big break, I’ve written a prayer which seeks to recapture the original meaning of the words we use for breaks from work, and which echoes well-known words from Psalm 51.10-12. I invite you to make it part of your daily prayers during your summer break, however big or small. Father, You are the giver of every good gift and I am your finite creation and beloved child. I receive the gift of days without work as a good gift from you. Free me from false guilt and help me to make the most of this time. May my “holiday” be a sequence of holy days, encountering and enjoying you. In my “leave,” may I abandon burdens I was not made to carry, and rejoice in you and your creation. In my “vacation,” help me to be unoccupied with work and its stresses. In my “break,” fracture the grip of unhealthy attitudes and patterns in my life. May my “days off” be unhurried days of delight in those closest to me. Recreate in me a clean heart during this time. Refashion my rhythms in tune with your heart. Restore my joy in your salvation. Renew a right spirit within me that honours you in rest and in work. Refresh my love for you and others. May I live each day without work, aware of your presence and alive by your Holy Spirit, Through Jesus Christ, my Lord, Amen.

It’s all opening up. Schools, shops, businesses, they are all opening up. And so are churches. How do you feel about that? Nervous? Excited? Relieved? Fearful? As you face the next few months, some thoughts on how to navigate the challenges. DISCUSSION AND CONFLICT Some church communities have been meeting for a long time now, and the coming changes will be small. For others, the big change will involve communal singing and the ability to sit physically closer to others. When communities have been separated for a long time, there is an adjustment that takes place as people acclimatize to the new setting. As they arrive, people will carry their expectations and also their fears. These will vary wildly and it is likely that conflict will take place. Some will want mask-wearing. Others will refuse. Some will want social distancing to continue. Others will not. What is a leader to do? Limited discussion Some churches will hold meetings to discuss the way forward. As democratic and sensible as that may sound, it can unfortunately be a Pandora’s box, releasing all kinds of opinions and emotions which cause problems. If you are going to hold a church meeting to discuss the way forward, you need to be very clear about the topics you want discussed, and more importantly, what’s up for discussion and what is not. Limit the discussion or you will be faced with more problems than you started with. But most importantly, lead. Yes, lead. At times like this, leaders must lead. That means consulting with people in the church who lead ministries, making decisions and communicating them clearly. Avoid, at all costs, the urge to please people. This is not a time to please people. It’s a time to be clear in your mind what you’re deciding and why. Once you’ve weighed up all the factors, make your decisions. If you don’t, the church will descend into chaos, with the loudest voices taking control. An unhappy vocal minority can do untold damage. Don’t avoid these people. Talk to them. Listen to them. But don’t bow to ungodly pressure. So . . . How will you address mask-wearing? Will you address the issue of physical contact, when some are still fearful of it? What to do with the huggers? What’s the distance between the chairs? Will your greeters offer to shake hands? Listen. Pray. Talk. Pray. Decide. Pray. Lead. Then pray. THEY’RE ALL GONE! This is perhaps the greatest fear. The true numbers can only be known once we completely open up. Once we do, what will I do if we’ve lost half our people? I’m terrified. A couple of responses. Your God does not evaluate your performance by the numbers who show up on Sunday. Especially during the summer. Remember, it’s the summer! People go on holiday. Students go home. Please, please ignore the numbers. Don’t allow the spaces to fill your vision, when there are people sitting there waiting to hear from God. Even if there are few of them. The quality of your leadership is rooted in two things: God’s calling Your obedience to your calling I won’t wrap you up in cotton wool, and tell you that you’re a great leader, because I have no idea who you are. I don’t believe that massaging a person’s ego is the answer to their fears and insecurities. So if half the people haven’t come back, I have no idea if that’s related to your performance over the past year or not. What I can tell you is that if God has called you, and you are committed to serving him, then the size of your congregation is irrelevant. There is only one fixed point, one stake in the ground that can be used to evaluate leadership, and that is obedience to the Lord Jesus. If you lay down your life in the service of your Lord, and you serve him humbly, learning as you go, then God will provide all that you need. If you lose half your people, then God will be with you. If people are unhappy, but you serve him in all due humility, then you will be secure in his love which bears you up and sustains you. Trust God, for he is faithful, good and true. He does not abandon those he calls. He remains faithful, as long as we are committed to him, and we serve him in all humility. DO NOT FEAR Fear is an emotion and it can paralyse a person. There are two responses to fear which can help: Truth Love The truth anchors us. It is a constant reminder of what is, when the Enemy’s lies call attention to what is not. He is a deceiver, and must be repelled with the truth. That’s why Bible memorisation is so helpful. It calls up the truth, when our fears are assaulting us. St. Paul talks about “taking every thought captive.” When you’re speaking the truth to yourself, your thoughts are focused on God, who is your father, your protector, your strong tower. The truth will encourage you and lift you up. So choose some promises from the Bible, which you have always loved. Memorise them. Speak them out to yourself. Speak them out to others. And love. Of course, love. Why not memorise that wonderful verse in John’s first letter: There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear. 1 John 4.18a When you’re afraid, remember that you’re loved. So very loved. Which is why you should focus on the one who loves you above and beyond all others. FOCUS ON JESUS Not sure what to preach on? These are not days to venture into the long grass of contentious subjects. At some point, leaders must address the role of women, gender, spiritual gifts, baptism, suffering. But not now. Unless the Spirit is very clear, there is only one subject for your sermons: The Lord Jesus. Your people need to be re-introduced to the glory of God exhibited in his Son. Christ is how we live, why we live and for whom we live. Call attention to who he is, why he lived among us, why he died and most importantly, how much he loves us. People are finding their feet again after a very difficult time. Some have lost relatives. Others have lost jobs. Many have been ill. They need a shining vision of the Lord Jesus to guide and inspire them. They need to know that God is faithful and good and cares for them. There’s no better way to communicate that message than with a series highlighting how glorious is the Lord we serve. Call your people to love and worship him. If you do that faithfully, there is nothing to fear.

Some years back, I was anxious to improve my leadership skills. “Hmm,” I thought, “what about a time management course?” When I asked my boss, he just laughed. I was Assistant Principal at Dumfries and Galloway College at the time, and my nickname was taken from a character in Thomas the Tank Engine. No, not Cranky the Crane or Mighty Mac. Not even Samson. Perhaps you guessed it. The Fat Controller! Without missing a beat, my boss turned down my request. “You’re the last person who needs a time management course,” he said. I have always had a fixation with being organised. Combine this with the advent of the digital age – electronic diaries synching across all devices – and I have transformed into a time geek. Not to be confused with a time lord. Recently, I was asked to provide counsel to a pastor in the area of time management. It gave me a wonderful opportunity to pass on my experience as a “human doing” rather than a “human being.” My mistakes have formed me as much as the good things I’ve learned. With age comes experience and, in God’s grace, some late-learned wisdom about how not to do things! As in so many areas, the Greeks had a rich and diverse vocabulary for expressing concepts and ideas. They had two words for time: chronos (χρόνος) – chronological or sequential time. E.g. Matthew 2:7.Then Herod summoned the wise men secretly and ascertained from them what time the star had appeared. This is used 54 times in the New Testament. kairos (καιρός) – an opportune or seasonable time for action. E.g. Romans 5:6. For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. This is used 86 times in the New Testament. WE Vine helps us understand the distinction. He includes this entry: Chronos expresses the duration of a period, kairos stresses it as marked by certain features. Thus in Acts 1:7, the Father has set within His own authority both the times (chronos), the lengths of the periods, and the seasons (kairos), epochs characterised by certain events.* As leaders, we are often obsessed with the ticking clock version of time, when perhaps we should be far more conscious of “numinous” time. Here’s a definition of numinous: having a strong religious or spiritual quality; indicating or suggesting the presence of a divinity. Time that is filled with opportunity rather than limitations. Many of us have experienced the difference between chronos and kairos in church. One Sunday, we’re sitting listening to a dry-as-dust preacher trudging through an obscure text before a congregation of the impossibly patient. Eyelids are sagging, but he just keeps going. Chronos – ticking time – never passed so slowly. The following Sunday, we’re giving rapt attention to a preacher whose presentation is inspiring. Every heart in the room tingles in that one sacred moment – that kairos – when we hear the voice of our Lord speaking to us. A typical response is “I heard from God in that moment (kairos) so that I didn’t notice the time (chronos) passing.” So how can we live ‘kairologically’? What about setting our time devices to “airplane” mode more often? Get rid of the endless notifications. Close the multi-screens on the computer. This will help us to cut out the distractions. It will give us the opportunity to connect to our surroundings, our people, and our relationships. It creates space for kairos – those moments when God speaks to us. In the New Testament, “now” is also a time marker. St. Paul uses the concept of present (νῦν – nun) time (καιρῷ - kairos) in his second letter to the Corinthians. Your abundance at the present time should supply their need, so that their abundance may supply your need, that there may be fairness. 2 Cor. 8.14 The “now” idea of time is expressed in the Latin motto, “carpe diem,” (which, by the way, has nothing to do with fish). It means, “pluck the day,” or is more commonly rendered, “seize the day.” Remember Robin Williams standing on a desk in the movie, Dead Poets Society? Carpe diem! What does it mean? It’s not about instant gratification or self-indulgence. Nor is it about impulsive behaviour, “striking while the iron is hot” or violently grasping for something. Rather, it is a profound moment of deep joy, a gentle, meditative, joyous “living in the moment.” Consider Elijah who stood at the mouth of the cave après-storm. Can you see him? He breathes in the smell of warm rain and hears a voice carried on the rain-scented breeze. He’s experiencing kairos – a sacred moment in tune with his God. Today, I encourage you to join Elijah in that moment – that kairos – fully conscious of the presence of God and the nearness of his Spirit indwelling you. Especially if you’re one of those who is weighed down by the demands of chronos – the ticking clock of condemnation that constantly tolls your tardiness – just stop for a moment. There’s a reason why we use that phrase “smell the roses.” Or “smell the coffee.” Mmm, breathe in the java smell; inhale the beauty of a rose garden. Stop for a moment – a kairos – to enjoy the majesty, the wonder of your beautiful Saviour. *Vine, WE, An Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words, electronic media, Olive Tree Bible Software, 1998-2021

Life can be harsh sometimes. It delivers painful lessons. One of those is disappointment. There’s something soul-destroying about disappointment. It can wear you down, drain you and finally crush you. Unless you learn to deal with it. Disappointment in Myself Our physical lives – We can be disappointed in our own work performance. We’re not disciplined enough, not smart enough, not savvy enough to achieve our goals. We don’t prioritise the right things. We could be a better worker, spouse, father, but we make choices which let us down. The teacher’s report says, “could do better.” As time rolls by, we pay the price for our ill-discipline, our lack of focus, and the disappointment deepens. Our moral lives – Of course, we’re sinners. But we’re not improving, we’re not sinning less. In fact, now we’re sinning in areas where once we didn’t sin. We’re getting older, but if we’re honest, we’re not getting wiser. We’re not monsters, but we’re just coming up short. Again and again. And that’s disappointing. Disappointment in Others Where to start? The church, maybe? I love church, except for all the people. People are disappointing. Period. They will let you down and disappoint you, and there is no world in which that doesn’t happen. Either you will learn that late or you will learn it early. But learn it you must. People who fail to deliver on their promises or those who say one thing and do another. Hypocrisy, rejection, unmet expectations, they all lead to disappointment. Disappointment in Circumstances New Covid rules mean your holiday is cancelled. Your child applied for a university, achieved the grades, but for some reason, they were rejected. Accidents, delays, bad weather, sometimes life can be very disappointing. Disappointment with God There is no getting around this one. It comes in two parts. Prayer – God isn’t answering me. I can’t hear him. I can’t feel him. I can’t see the way forward. Where is he? There is a disconnect between what I’m expected to say each Sunday and my actual experience of him right now. It’s killing me. Life – My mother is in hospital. My brother’s about to lose his children as he goes through a horrible divorce. My neighbour is suing me for something that isn’t fair. An idiot rear-ended my car last week and oh, my migraines are getting worse. A lot worse. I can take a certain amount of pain, but this is just ridiculous. I’m crying out but I’m not hearing you, Lord. That’s the truth. All I hear from people who “counsel” me is “pray more,” “trust Jesus more.” To be honest, I think I’m going to hit the next person who says that to me. God, what is going on?! Still reading? Glad you’re still with me. Now for some thoughts on how to deal with disappointment. Actually, that might be part of the problem. We are so indoctrinated by the Protestant work ethic, we think we can do something to solve this. Do, do, do. Pray more. Trust more. Take action. Solve it. Fix it. But here’s the thing. Disappointment isn’t really something you can solve. There is no to-do list to make it go away. So my first heading is one you might not like or even accept. Acceptance Disappointment is an emotion. It’s a reaction to something that is hurting us. Emotions themselves are like the ocean. You ride the ocean, you don’t change it. The ocean rises and falls. Just like life. Emotions swell and build, then they fade and fall away. Disappointment will run through you, and it will do that whatever you try to do with it. It just will. Accept that disappointment is a part of life. Instead of fighting it, explaining it, arguing with it, just look at it and admit that you are, at times, filled with it. Disappointment makes us feel powerless. It also drags us back into the past, which cannot be changed. The future, by contrast, is held out to you by God. An invitation to live in his grace, to enjoy him, praise him, to believe that whatever has happened, God has been there, is there, and will be with you as you move forward. His faithfulness is unfailing, even when you don’t feel that he’s there. Christ’s Example The Lord Jesus did not float along six feet above the ground, removed from the agonies of life. He formed real relationships with real people. Those people disappointed him over and over again. You can see his frustration in these verses from Matthew’s gospel. “You unbelieving and perverse generation,” Jesus replied, “how long shall I stay with you? How long shall I put up with you? Bring the boy here to me.” Jesus rebuked the demon, and it came out of the boy, and he was healed at that moment. Then the disciples came to Jesus in private and asked, “Why couldn’t we drive it out?” He replied, “Because you have so little faith.” Matthew 17.17-20a He sounds impatient, doesn’t he? But I think he’s also disappointed. He knows he’s working with imperfect materials, but he had hoped for more. And the disciples still haven’t understood. Not really. But it’s during the Passion that he is stung the most. Simon Peter, his best buddy, lets him down. We often focus on the verse about Peter weeping bitterly, but spare a thought for Jesus, who, in the midst of his cruellest hour, is abandoned by his friend. Though he knew it was coming – he prophesied it, of course – it must have hurt very much. And this takes us back to earlier in the story - the Garden of Gethsemane scene which we all know so well. I’ve often wondered about Jesus’ plea for his father to “remove the cup.” He knew perfectly well that his path was fixed before him. There would be no escape. There was no alternative plan to save humanity. Yet still he prays. And sweats blood in his distress. How heartening to know that even Jesus prayed prayers of pure emotion. He knew it was just emotion, that his father had no intention to “remove the cup.” Yet still he prayed. He poured out his agony to his father. He wanted to know that his father was right there with him during his darkest hour. I think that is a picture to carry us through disappointment. Our Lord knows how disappointing life can be, and how much pain we carry, but he’s right there with us. And he hears us when we cry to him. So when you’re disappointed, turn to him, and pour out your heart. Coming out of lockdown may lead to tremendous disappointment for many leaders. But God is right there with you. He’s always been with you. So share your heart with him. He’s been there too. Disappointment the Teacher You knew this was coming, didn’t you? Allow me to begin with a quote from the writer, Larry Crabb.* Disappointment is inevitable. More than that, it is good. Following Christ must take us through seasons of disappointment, because Christianity remakes our dreams before it fulfils them. Christianity remakes our dreams before it fulfils them. Marinate in that thought for a while. We are not what we should be, and without God, we are not even capable of grasping the extent of our need. We need to be remade, and disappointment is part of the process. Again, Larry Crabb. Christianity promises happiness – that’s part of the appeal – but we will not find it by traveling the route we’ve already laid out in our heads. Disappointment, severe enough to be called death, is unavoidable in a true spiritual journey. Listening to a podcast the other day, I heard of a writer who wrote about death and resurrection. She said that the Christian life requires repeated death and resurrection for us to grow. Every challenge, every fractured dream, every soul-destroying disappointment can kill us, but in dying we surrender our own selfish ways in order to experience the resurrection, the new life of our Lord within us. Disappointment hurts most when we cling to our unrealised dreams, dreams which are based on our own ideas of happiness or success or fulfilment. When we die to those dreams, we are free to embrace the resurrection life of Jesus. That is a truth worth pondering today. Let me end with a final quote from Larry Crabb. Soul-crushing struggle supplies the energy that nudges us along in the process of shifting from token hope, the kind that generates pleasant feelings, to the real thing that anchors us through life’s storms. None of us wants token hope. Pleasant feelings are not enough. We want the real thing. Of course we do. But it’s only when life’s disappointments re-shape us, re-form us, that we die to our selfish dreams. Death and resurrection. We must die, if we want to be born to eternal life. Resurrection life. The real thing that anchors us through life’s storms. *All quotes from Larry Crabb are from Becoming a True Spiritual Community. 1999.

Take Care of Yourself: Survive and Thrive in Christian Ministry, Pablo Martinez, Lausanne Library / Hendrickson, 2018, 100 pages, ISBN: 9781683071785, List price: £4.99 In recent years there has been a welcome increase in interest in the wellbeing of Christian leaders. The spiritual health of pastors and other Christian workers, and their spouses too, is at the core of our mission in Living Leadership and we welcome this fresh attention to the needs of those who serve others. Pablo Martinez, an experienced psychiatrist and leader among evangelicals in his native Spain, has made a valuable contribution in this succinct and accessible book which, as the self-explanatory title suggests, aims to help people in Christian ministry to survive and thrive by taking care of themselves. It is packed with warmth and wisdom gleaned from the experience of supporting many leaders who have come close to the edge or crashed over it into burnout. Martinez makes judicious use of insights from the world of psychology, but grounds everything he says in Scripture first and foremost. The book comprises five brief chapters followed by a two-page Epilogue and an Appendix. The first chapter reminds us of the biblical principle that we are ‘Jars of Clay’ and describes God’s intention for us to live quiet lives in terms of ensuring that we are not living under constant stress on the verge of exhaustion. In Chapter 2, Martinez introduces his key image of a pool of water which must constantly receive fresh filling as water flows out, establishing the principle of resting daily (in sleep), weekly (Sabbath) and yearly (holiday) and outlining some of the signs that signal a pool that is close to empty. This image is carried into the following chapter as he urges us to avoid self-inflicted mistakes that empty the pool: perfectionism, activism, self-ambition and haste. Chapter 4 introduces a new metaphor, of life as a vineyard to be tended under God, while the final chapter explores the central importance of resting and trusting in God for our personal renewal. The Epilogue is really a conclusion to Chapter 5 and the Appendix contains additional material about dealing with our pasts that, whilst relevant to burdened leaders, is not clearly related to the main body of the book. This book is suitably brief – an important quality for anything that people may need to read when they are exhausted and concentration is limited – but it is rich in wisdom. Martinez’s imagery – from the rhythms of the heart moving between relaxed diastole and active systole (p.16) to the well-watered vineyard that bears much fruit – and memorable aphorisms – “The word ‘yes’ is very powerful, but the word ‘no’ is very healthy” (p.33) or “God wants our ministries to be like oaks, not mushrooms” (p.60) – help to embed his wisdom into the reader’s mind. I was also challenged and helped by his reminder that both “Moses and Elijah, giants of the faith, the symbols of the Law and the Prophets who accompanied Jesus in the Transfiguration” (p.20) experienced points of near-collapse in ministry. Most helpful, however, was his constant reminders, brought to the fore in the final chapter, that our strength is only renewed by God as we are still and acknowledge him, remaining in Christ and being constantly renewed in our love for him and for others. The main weakness of Take Care of Yourself is its lack of interconnectedness. It is less a coherent thesis and more a collection of vignettes of wisdom for anyone in Christian ministry. With its lack of flow of ideas between chapters, its occasional repetition of concepts, and a detached Appendix, it could have benefited from a clear introductory statement of what makes for healthy life in ministry which could be developed through the chapters and restated in a conclusion. Its use as a tool in mentoring others and in group study is somewhat limited by the brevity of the ‘Questions for Study and Reflection’ section, which comprises seven questions that seem to be an afterthought. It would have been more helpful to have a more detailed study guide after each chapter along with some tools for self-assessment. Whilst the book’s dependence on Scripture is a strength, there are a few points where verses are used as prooftexts to bear more weight than they may have been intended to. Importantly, however, in his integration of biblical truth with ideas from psychology, Martinez never strays into the pitfall of using Scripture as a pretext for psychological theories. Martinez is at his strongest, as we might expect from an experienced psychiatrist, when challenging unhealthy patterns of thinking and feeling. Each of his suggestions could benefit from more concrete, practical advice about how to work the right attitudes he encourages out in practice. A few practical tips emerge in Chapter 4, but important ideas like the habit of weekly Sabbath, finding supportive relationships within the church we lead, and prioritising family time could do with more development for readers who may have distorted understandings or who have good intentions but are uncertain where to start. A surprising omission from the set of relationships Martinez recommends (family, church, close friends, nature and books) is the need to have accountability to a more senior leader or a group of peers (fellow-elders). The book could be enriched by marrying Martinez’s experience as someone who cares for pastors with reflections from someone who has experienced life in paid church ministry. In conclusion, Martinez proves to be a trustworthy guide on the first steps in self-care for those in ministry. His central emphasis on intentionality in keeping life centred on Christ and ensuring habitual enjoyment of God is refreshing and thoroughly biblical. A book of this length will never be the final word on any of the issues it touches on, but this is certainly a useful addition to the libraries of pastors and those who care for them. The chapters are short enough for a mentor and mentee to read between meetings and rich enough to provoke helpful discussion. To get your own copy on 10ofThose, Eden or most other book retailers.

How do you recognise good leadership? When you’ve been well led. Really well led. Introducing two super supers - Greg and Patricia. Greg was the news director at BBC Radio Solent when I worked there during the 1990s. Patricia was my supervisor at the American Red Cross Blood Services during the late 1990s-early 2000s. They were both super supers. I learnt a lot from both of them. Competence They were both outstanding at their jobs. Greg was a wonderful journalist. He asked the right questions, was extremely well-informed, wrote well, and he had confidence in his own judgement. In a fast-paced newsroom, decisions over which stories to pursue demands an unerring intuition about what constitutes real news and what is just fluff. He was miles ahead of me, so every day I learnt something new from him. Things are moving so quickly in a newsroom that a leader must make decisions and project confidence that those decisions are the right ones. He was rock solid. Patricia was – and still is – a trained nurse with a vast knowledge base. She knew the procedures for every department, and she understood how the whole – rather cumbersome – system worked. I trusted her to answer my questions and do so clearly. What does it mean for a church leader to be competent? Perhaps you’re expecting me now to write about servant leadership. Or maybe you think I should mention integrity. I certainly wouldn’t want to downplay the importance of either of those. Not at all. They’re both essential. However, I take it for granted that leaders should be people of integrity who follow in Jesus’ footsteps, who live out his words in Mark’s gospel. Whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve (Mark 10. 44b – 45a.) Integrity and humble service are the absolute minimum requirements of leadership. Without these, a leader cannot lead the people of God. So perhaps my focus should be on a leader’s ability to preach the Word of God. There isn’t a shadow of doubt that teaching and preaching are essential skills for a leader in the church. They are tools which every leader must have, and gifts that all leaders should develop. No question. But is that enough? Integrity and humble servanthood are essential character traits. Preaching is an essential skill. But when you put these together, are they enough? If I have these, does that make me a leader? I wish I could answer “yes.” But I can’t. Nor is “being a lovely person” enough. There are lots of lovely people around. They’re not all leaders. Preaching well is wonderful, but preaching is just one means by which people grow in their knowledge of the Lord. It is important, but not sufficient. Leadership is a skill. Just like preaching, motorcycle maintenance, and software programming. It doesn’t just appear and settle on a person once they are appointed a Rev/Pastor.* Sadly, church leaders often take on their jobs with a list of tasks that need to be completed. Those tasks then become the masters, demanding that the leader complete them to the best of their ability. Running a Sunday service. Preaching. Leading a prayer meeting. Chairing meetings. These tasks may be important but they are not your masters. As a leader, these tasks are supposed to help you achieve your goals; they do not constitute the limits of your leadership. So what is effective Christian leadership? Dallas Willard, writing on spiritual formation, uses the acronym VIM. Vision, Intention, Means. The vision to know where you’re going, the intention to reach the destination, and the means to get there. For leaders, the acronym needs slight modification. It’s VIPM. Whoops, not much of an acronym. Vision – (see our earlier blog post here) Inspiration – the ability to inspire followers Plan – a plan to achieve the goal Means – a means to implement the plan The vision is simply a clear idea over the primary goal of the church. For leaders, this is very straightforward. (See our 'Forming Followers' post.) Make disciples (Matt. 28). Equip and release people for works of service (Eph. 4.11-13). How did my super supers do this? Vision They “made disciples” by giving me a vision of what they wanted and encouraging me to improve. They lifted my eyes to help me believe that I could become a better journalist/teacher. They accomplished this in a couple of ways, which made me their follower. First, their competence was a model which I followed. Second, they showed interest in me as a person. Patricia achieved this in various ways. She didn’t just see me as a member of the department, she knew all about me as a person. Or at least as much as I would reveal to her. She wasn’t being nosey. She was showing that she cared about me. She encouraged me, supported me, trained me, and yes, inspired me to aim high. I am forever grateful for her inspirational leadership. Greg noticed everything I did. He noticed everything that everyone did. He was brutally honest about our mistakes – we knew when we’d messed up – but he didn’t run us down. He lifted us up. I once went to interview a government minister (Kenneth Clarke) when I shouldn’t have done. (Long story.) I knew I had disappointed him; I’d followed my own ego instead of focusing on the right priorities. But I admired him so much that my error fed a desire to improve, to ensure that I would never make the same mistake again. During the local elections, I had the chance to redeem myself. I was sent to report from a polling station, where I sent in a creative piece (uncommon in local radio) on the various candidates. Some of the other reporters were superb; I didn’t expect much feedback from him, but of course, he was Greg. He had listened, and he had noticed. His praise for my report, when it came, swelled my heart. I will be forever grateful to him for showing interest in my development as a journalist. My super supers trained me, encouraged and supported me; they inspired me. That’s why I followed them. That’s why I listened to them. They modelled professional excellence in their behaviour and with their guidance, I improved as a journalist and as a teacher. How well do you know your people? I mean, really know them. Asking about the football or the children has its place, but for a leader, it’s not enough. You’re making disciples, and you can’t do that unless you show you care about how your people are growing. Isn’t it astounding that we will ask how the children are doing or if a person likes their new job, but when it comes to the most important question of all, we back off? We can do better. If you care about the growth of your people, it is necessary to ask, now and then, these kinds of questions: What has God been teaching you recently? How is your prayer life nowadays? How is God challenging you? These questions go deeper, and they show you care about the most important thing in life: following Jesus. Somehow, then, we must push past our fears, and show interest in the spiritual growth of those in our community. That’s what Patricia and Greg did. They showed interest in my professional growth. I couldn’t just show up and tread water, and hope they wouldn’t notice. They noticed. They always noticed. Because they cared. That’s why those questions are necessary. Not all the time, of course, but when the time is right. When God nudges you forward. After all, what’s the worst that can happen? A leader interested in how I’m doing in my faith – how can that not be an encouragement to me as I stand in front of you holding my coffee cup and . . . In despair over possibly losing my job Struggling in my marriage Excited about what I read in the Bible this week Confused about the future At last, a leader who doesn’t just make jokes about the local football team. Here is someone who will help me grow, who will pray with me as I face challenges in my life, or rejoice with me over what I’ve been learning in God’s Word. Plan and Means Greg and Patricia knew exactly what my job was, and how to equip me with the skills to do it well. Better journalism, better training, they showed me the way. For a church leader, it’s not so simple. A better way of living? More obedience? More sacrifice? No wonder leaders feel out of their depth when faced with the many struggles that people face. Plan and Means for leaders has to do with one thing alone: implementing a plan to make disciples. I wrote about that a couple of weeks ago. More obedience? More faith? Leaders joyfully throw up their hands and say, “I give up! I can’t do! But I know someone who can help.” How wonderful that when facing the impossible task of forming followers, we have a supervisor who stands out as exceptional, who carries us when we’re weary, who equips us, knows us and cares for us. He is our all-sufficient Saviour. He truly is a super super. *Other titles are available.

Today, a journey of reflection. Do join me. In Isaiah 42 we have one of the “Servant Songs” that paints beautiful pictures of the perfect servant of God. Jesus is, of course, in view. But, as God speaks through Isaiah, he contrasts this faithful servant with the nation of Israel. Called to be God’s servant, Israel had stopped listening, seemed to have no faith, and became self-serving (see Isaiah 42:18-20). The challenge for us is clear. Will we be a deaf “servant” or will we be attentive to our Master? Christian leaders are called to be God’s servants in the footsteps of the Lord Jesus. More than that, through the work of the Spirit, we are “in Christ” and Christ is in us. So, we can hear these verses as our Father’s words to us. We’ll be immersing ourselves in Isaiah 42.1-8. Please don’t hurry through these verses. You don’t rush when your Master is speaking! You stop and soak in every word. As you read, pause often and long. Reflect on what your Father is saying to you. What do the verses affirm and what do they expect? How do they reassure you and what must you reassess? I’ll try to help you with questions and comments between each thought, but ignore them if you find the Spirit whispering something else to your soul. Here we go. Behold my servant, whom I uphold, my chosen, in whom my soul delights; Do you know your Father chose you? Do you know that he upholds you? He won’t let you fall. But upholding you is no chore for him because his soul delights in you. You bring pleasure to his heart and a smile to his face. You have nothing to prove. I have put my Spirit upon him; he will bring forth justice to the nations. Do you know you’re empowered by the same Spirit who empowered the Lord Jesus? The personal, powerful presence of God rests on you and indwells you. So, let him fill your life, infiltrating every hidden recess and shaping every thought. Enjoy that! But remember, his empowerment is not only for your pleasure, but for this purpose: so that, like Jesus, you will act justly towards others. He will not cry aloud or lift up his voice, or make it heard in the street; Do you long to be recognised? Craving thanks? Hungry for praise? Ambition for the big lights? Remember, you’re a servant. I know you’re so much more besides, but you’re never more than the one whom God called to serve. So, avoid drawing attention to yourself. That’s not what servants do! Your Lord didn’t do it and nor should you. You shouldn’t want to do it, because your desire should be for his glory. The Spirit can get people’s attention just fine without your help. Instead, be attentive to your Master. Keep your head down and keep serving. a bruised reed he will not break, and a faintly burning wick he will not quench; he will faithfully bring forth justice. Do you crush people or encourage them? Yes, we all need encouragement, but when it doesn’t come, we can become testy, even critical of others. Who are the bruised reeds and smouldering wicks around you? Have you hurt them? How can you put that right? How can you make your goal justice for them, strengthening them in God’s truth, leading them in his grace? He will not grow faint or be discouraged till he has established justice in the earth; and the coastlands wait for his law. In these verses, we’re back to your own discouragement. Maybe you feel faint. Like you’ve nothing left to give. The last thing I said just passed you by because you’re feeling too wounded. But the work isn’t finished. People are still waiting for the law of Christ – the liberating law of love – the justification that makes it possible. There are people to be served. Will you give up? How will you keep going? Thus says God, the LORD, who created the heavens and stretched them out, who spread out the earth and what comes from it, who gives breath to the people on it and spirit to those who walk in it: Now we’re in a different league. From our faintness to his power. From our smallness to his bigness. From our discouragement to his unfathomable majesty. Stretching out the heavens, spreading out the earth, like some cosmic potter rolling out the clay. Crafting each body and gently breathing life into their nostrils. Did you think he didn’t know you? Did you suspect he didn’t care? Did you doubt that he knows how you tick? He knows you better than you know yourself and he knows the people you serve. “I am the LORD; I have called you in righteousness; I will take you by the hand and keep you; He has a name. Yahweh. The I AM - the ever-existent, self-sufficient, unchanging One. He called you, but maybe you think he chose the wrong person for this job? He doesn’t make mistakes. Perhaps you think he tricked you and promised you what he can’t deliver? He doesn’t tell lies. He called you in righteousness. He knew what he was doing, and he won’t let you go. Like a parent with a toddler, he holds your hand and he won’t ever let go. However close the crowd and however fast the pace. So toddle on and let him lead you! I will give you as a covenant for the people, a light for the nations, to open the eyes that are blind, to bring out the prisoners from the dungeon, from the prison those who sit in darkness. So there it is. Don’t forget it’s first about Jesus. He is the One who was given as a covenant for the people and the light for the nations. He brought you into the new covenant in his blood. In him, you’re bound to God in an everlasting bond of love. Held in his promises. And you’re the declaration of those promises to the people you serve. Extolling his greatness. Expounding his word. Echoing his call. Embodying his promises. Exemplifying his faithfulness. And you’re a light too, because his light is in you. Jesus is the Light of the World, but we, his people, bear his light. You shine in the darkness. You bring the hope of Christ and the gospel of grace to the nations, by which the Spirit opens blind eyes and releases captives. Don’t forget that. Don’t settle for something less. Your service is needed because people need Jesus. Perhaps you find yourself in these verses. Broken and bruised. Down but not out. A jar of clay with a treasure inside. God’s servant whom he upholds and in whom he delights. So, remember who you are – God's precious child. And be encouraged today as you serve him. You do so by serving others in his mighty name.

Everyone loves a testimony. What’s not to like? They are stories, and everyone loves stories. They come from the heart, so they provoke an emotional response. They are filled with hope. They speak of God’s power and his love. They are often inspiring. So what’s not to love? Very little, which is why I don’t want to pour cold water on the idea of testimonies. I think they’re a great way to encourage believers, to give us insight into what God is doing in the midst of a community, and yes, to inspire us. However, there are a few things to be aware of when including a testimony in a service. First, a short story from my own life. I work with disadvantaged people. I’m in a team that serves breakfast once a week to people who are struggling in life. Our guests come with a variety of challenges. Some are homeless, some are addicts, and some are just lonely. Most are on benefits. Some smell; many don’t. Some are educated; many left school at 16. Most are men. During breakfast, there is a short talk. For a while, we were inviting various ex-offenders and ex-drug addicts to give their testimonies. They were fantastic. Inspirational. I would listen to their stories and wonder how anyone could listen and not believe immediately. Our guests were so needy, so desperate, and some were so similar to the speakers, I was certain they would respond to a message of love and grace. But they rarely did. It made me sad, and still makes me sad. One morning, I was sitting with a guest, who asked me this question, Do you think we’re all addicts, then? I was shocked, but my eyes were opened in an instant. While I was hearing a message of hope, this man was hearing something completely different. All he heard was criticism and labelling. He thought we were putting him in a box marked, “person with addiction problems. Perhaps a criminal.” We weren’t, but he thought we were. What did I learn? That when a person gives a testimony, we don’t all hear it with the same ears. I learnt that it comes with assumptions, which not everyone shares. Choosing the right testimony for the right occasion feeds into the concept of messaging. Messaging is defined as follows: All the words used to communicate publicly with the church body. Words are extremely powerful. They communicate our values, our beliefs, our culture – those things we value and affirm as a group. So the words used during a testimony are part of a church’s messaging. They validate and communicate the values of the church. They become part of the culture. If you only interview ex-drug addicts, you include assumptions that come along with that choice. It’s not wrong to interview ex-addicts, of course, but if you only choose ex-addicts or ex-criminals, then consider carefully what you are communicating to your church. Choosing a testimony It’s easy to be sloppy. We’re looking for stories, so we choose the latest story to come to our attention. However, over time, we will inevitably choose certain kinds of stories that appeal to us personally, without even thinking. So consider carefully what kinds of testimonies have been given recently in your church before selecting the next one. When I was in my late teens, I read two memoirs that had a profound impact on my life. One was “The Cross and the Switchblade,” by David Wilkerson, and the other was “Run, Baby, Run,” by Nicky Cruz. Every young evangelical read these two books back then. They tell the story of a pastor who preaches to violent gangs in New York. Miracles happen. Wilkerson is a man of great faith and extraordinary bravery. Nicky Cruz, a gang leader, comes to faith and has his life turned upside down by God. This is going to sound absurd, but as a young man, I spent a long time wishing I could have been a drug addict or a gangster. It’s not hard to follow the logic. If I had been, then I could have had a testimony like Nicky Cruz’s. And who wouldn’t want that? When a person gives a testimony, those listening will inevitably think of their own testimony. And while that’s a normal response, it can create problems. We expect testimonies to be dramatic, perhaps to contain miracles. That’s what makes them extraordinary. That’s why they inspire us. But they can also make people feel excluded; they can indicate to us that our own stories have lesser value. That’s not the intention, but it’s the reality. Is there a solution? Not really, but a good leader should be aware of how a testimony will come across. A good leader knows that God works in myriad ways that aren’t always dramatic and exciting. So a good leader will sometimes choose testimonies that don’t involve drugs and miracles, but simply the slow burn or the persistent inquiry leading to faith. And don’t we sometimes need to hear from people who’ve struggled to believe and have held on? Not everyone worth listening to has gone to prison or fought an addiction. Testimonies should span the demographic spectrum of the church – young, old, rich, poor – because we connect with a testimony and if we don’t see ourselves mirrored up there, we can begin to think that our spiritual experience isn’t valid. Or it’s not worth sharing. Too Soon Be careful of putting people up on stage too soon. This happens a lot. A new believer, someone who has come through Alpha perhaps, is suddenly asked all kinds of questions in front of hundreds of people. We should be hesitant about doing that. It draws attention to a person when what they need is discipleship and relationship. It can provoke unwanted questions. The person can be asked theological questions which they are ill-equipped to answer. They are assumed to know a lot more than they do. Unwelcome Assumptions and Telling the Story I think sometimes we project unwelcome (or even untrue) assumptions when we conduct our interviews. Here’s one: If you don’t follow Jesus, you must be miserable and lost. The problem is, while Jesus does indeed make sense of life, it’s simply not true that all those who are not Christians are, by definition, miserable and lost. That’s not true and it’s not helpful. It’s also important not to ask leading questions. Leading questions are those which contain unwarranted assumptions. Here’s one: So, Jerry, when did you realise that life was meaningless without Jesus? To be fair, I haven’t heard that one, but I’ve heard similar ones. Here’s another: So, Jerry, tell us just how difficult things were for you when you were living on the streets. That’s not a good question. Here’s a better alternative: Jerry, tell us about your life on the streets. Allow the interviewee to set the scene and tell the story without projecting your own ideas and assumptions into your questions. A good interview focuses all our attention on the person giving the testimony. The story is what draws us, teaches us, inspires us. The interviewer’s job is to help the person move through the story. “What happened when you” . . . “What did you learn from that course/relationship/incident?” . . . “You said God spoke to you through a chance encounter with a woman at the bus stop, tell us more about that” . . . “Tell us about your life now . . .” These are all open questions/statements that move the story forward. Many people nowadays are savvy. They know when they’re hearing hype, when they’re hearing something that doesn’t quite ring true. So stick to the truth. Never ask the person to amp up the story so that it sounds a little more dramatic. God’s work in our lives is dramatic enough. In fact, when a story contains disappointment and struggle, it’s all the more powerful, because it’s real. Life isn’t just mountaintops, it’s valleys too. We all know that. In truth, the Spirit blows where He wills. Sometimes He will draw out testimonies from who knows where, that make us uncomfortable (or inspire us) and only He knows what he’s doing. I can no more contain God than lasso the wind. Praise God for that! So tell stories in your services. Choose stories that give glory to God. And trust those words to bring life and encouragement to those who hear.

What’s your job description? If you had to boil it down to one sentence, what would it be? Try some of these: • Preaching, praying, appointing ministry leaders. • Giving vision to a community of believers. • Inspiring and encouraging a group of believers to follow Jesus • Teaching and developing the gifts of a group of believers. There’s a lot to like about all of the above, but in reality a church leader’s job can be expressed in just two words: • Making disciples That’s the job, and once you understand that everything you do as a leader should be evaluated in terms of those two words, then everything becomes a lot simpler. Leaders are often overwhelmed by life. So much to do, so little time. Meetings and sermons and decisions seem to arrive at such speed, it’s like one of those video driving games, where you have to dodge obstacles and stay on the road. All the focus is on keeping the car on the circuit, you’re barely able to think of anything else. Do the next thing. And the next. Don’t crash! Another sermon? Yup, I’m writing that tonight. After the prayer meeting and when I’ve looked over the minutes of last night’s elders' meeting. It’s all happening so fast, it’s hard to step back and ask the big questions: What’s my job? What am I here for? Disciple-making. That’s your job. You already know the text at the end of Matthew’s gospel. So at some point, when you’ve caught your breath, take some time to ask yourself a hard question: When I look at my week, how much is devoted to making disciples? I’m completing tasks, but are these tasks primarily focused on making disciples? The question can be expanded. Is my church a place where I’m making disciples and disciples are being made? If you think about it, that’s the only criterion that really matters. If the Lord visited your church, would he say this? I like it! This is a place where disciples are made, where followers are formed. They understand the Great Commission. They do things here which help people become my disciples. Great! So here’s a question that might sting a bit: Is a regular Sunday service and homegroup attendance enough to make disciples of Jesus? I think you probably know the answer to that one. So what’s the answer? Well, I certainly can’t fix the problem in a blog post, but here are a few thoughts. Modelling As the leader, not only do you model what it means to be a disciple, you model the very idea of disciple-making. Discipleship isn’t “a part of the Christian life,” it IS the Christian life. Following Jesus and helping others to follow Jesus is the purpose of life. So what do your people see when they watch how you live? Are you showing them both how to live as a disciple and how to make disciples? Who’s discipling the leader? Much has been written about what it means to be a disciple – I recommend Dallas Willard’s work on this subject. No space here for more. But obviously, it starts with you personally. So, who’s discipling you? Who’s helping you to become a better disciple? Many leaders don’t attend home groups. The excuse is either lack of time or fear of intimacy. So where do you go to grow? Who is walking by your side? Who loves you enough to ask you hard questions and guide you on the path? An accountability group might help (see our previous blog post), but it may not be the right place. You may need a different group. One thing is for certain – you need something. You can’t expect your church members to meet in small groups without being in one yourself. That won’t wash. You need a plan Discipleship doesn’t just happen. It doesn’t materialise out of the ether. It happens when a leader both models what it means to be a disciple, and communicates clearly how discipleship works. If you don’t have a vision for discipleship, it won’t happen. Simple as that. In fact, you need both a vision and a plan to implement that vision. Completing tasks like Sunday services are all well and good, but they aren’t fit for the purpose of making disciples. So here are some thoughts about how Jesus went about the task of making disciples. Relationship Disciple-making is rooted in relationship. These relationships come in various forms. One-on-one – Simon Peter. One-on-three – Simon, James and John. Small group – the Twelve. The large group – the 72. Each size has its benefits and its disadvantages. Small groups of twelve(ish) are fine, but I have found they often don’t lead to intimacy. In order to grow in the faith, we need people who know us well, who ask hard questions, who challenge us. A group of twelve often doesn’t do this. It’s easy to hide in a group of twelve. A group of four and below works better. I think everyone in church should be in a group of four and below as well as a homegroup. It doesn’t have to meet every week, but unless it’s promoted by the leadership, then it won’t happen. And something vital is lost. I acknowledge that time will be required. It won’t happen without commitment, but that’s the minimum cost of discipleship: time. And you as the leader will need to model what it looks like. Knowledge and Experience, Word and Spirit A Sunday sermon, even an expository sermon, is not teaching. It’s preaching. Preaching is not teaching. Yet Jesus spends an awful lot of time teaching his disciples. St. Paul’s letters use the phrase, “grow in the knowledge and grace of God” frequently. It is not possible to grow as a disciple unless, in some way, we are growing in our knowledge of God. And that comes primarily through the Word of God. In your church, how do people grow in their knowledge of the Scriptures? Homegroup and sermons provide input, but they are not enough. Not by a long shot. It is shocking sometimes to speak to long-time church members, whose knowledge of the Bible is wafer-thin. How can they grow unless we expect more of them? How will they grow unless we give them a vision of what it means to grow in the knowledge of God? How can they grow if we only offer a sermon and a home group each week? The answer is, many won’t. They need more. They need opportunities to gather around the Word of God and learn. Actually learn. Study. That takes effort. I have found, however, that when pushed a little, many will rise to the challenge. In fact, they love it. There’s nothing so energised as a Bible class where people are learning and growing. So give them homework. Train them in a book of the Bible (or a topic) and then ask them to teach a section. You will be heartened by how God can lift a person when given a vision of their potential. That’s the leader’s job. That’s your job. And if you’re the leader of a big church, train others to do the same. Spirit Discipleship is learning to follow in Jesus’ footsteps. We get to know him better through the Word and we learn to walk by the Spirit . . . by walking in faith, trusting in God’s Spirit to guide us. So discipleship involves both Word and Spirit. Christ sent out the 72 and they returned full of faith and joy. Teaching led to mission. There is no conflict between discipleship and mission, because discipleship produces followers with a heart to carry the message of God’s kingdom into the world. Empowered by the Spirit. That comes from growing in maturity. Word and Spirit go hand in hand. A final word about your church culture. You are not stuck with a set of tasks, which bind you. You are called by God to make disciples. If that involves making some changes, then so be it. Yes, some people may leave, because change is hard, but following Jesus comes at a cost. All leaders know that. So this week, may I encourage you to pray over these two questions? How well are disciples being made in my church? What changes do I need to make in order to create a disciple-making culture in my church? Only you can answer these questions. Your answers may produce some discomfort, or you may be encouraged when you think about how disciples are being made in your church. I don’t know. Whatever the case, keep your eye on the goal. Making disciples. That’s the job. For the glory of the Disciple-Maker above all others. If you are unsure where to start with finding someone to help you in your discipleship journey, our staff and associates, who are experienced mentors and pastoral caregivers, would love to chat with you. Contact our team for more information.