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How many sermons have you delivered during your life in ministry? Two hundred? Five hundred? More? How many have you heard? Many more, I’m sure. But how many do you remember? And here’s the crucial question: Of those you remember, what made them stand out? What made them memorable? I myself remember very few of the precise details of the sermons I hear. And that’s understandable. My memory is no different from many who sit in your church building each Sunday listening to you. When you preach, you have multiple goals. Here are some: Be faithful to the Scriptures Help my people hear from the Lord Listen to the Spirit and pass on His wisdom Do rigorous exegesis There are more, of course. One of the most important is clarity. If we’re not clear, we simply confuse people. Yet to achieve clarity, it’s necessary to take complex ideas and condense them down, so that they’re understandable and memorable. And that’s why I’d like to suggest something called “Three words, one point.” Three Words. One point. It really is remarkable how few words you actually need to communicate an idea. In fact, I think you’ll find you rarely need more than three. Three words to communicate one idea. That should resonate a little, surely. Let’s start with the Ten Commandments. No other gods Make no idols Do not blaspheme Keep the Sabbath Honour your parents Do not kill Never commit adultery Do not steal Do not lie Do not covet Condensing ideas down is a good practice. A very good practice. And it’s essential when preparing sermons. There are so many words and ideas in your average passage of Scripture, it is easy to be overwhelmed. The letter to the Romans is particularly challenging. In most chapters, there is enough wisdom to fill several sermons. It’s like a fruitcake – so dense and rich you’ll get a stomachache trying to digest it all. So, the shorter the better. Here’s an outline of the Bible in one or two words. God God is God saves God restores God’s love God’s story Holy God One day, you should build your own collection. But it’s when we get to three words that things start to fizz. God saves man[1] God’s love story God defeats devil Three In One Father, Son, Spirit Faith, Hope, Love Goodness, Truth, Beauty Creation, Fall, Restoration Christ reveals God Death, Life, Eternity God loves man God is Love God will triumph God saved me Your Kingdom come Jesus is Lord The exercise of expressing big ideas with very few words is an essential one in preparing a message. The reason is that our minds are designed to grab and hold simple, clear ideas. The longer the sentence, the harder it is for us to remember the idea. The counter-argument, however, might be that when we’re confined to very few words, we are “dumbing down” the message. I disagree. Condensing the idea down to three words enables our minds to grasp the essence of the message. Its inner core of truth. That doesn’t mean there is no complexity to be explored. It simply means that as we prepare the message, we are rightly constrained by the central truth of the passage. If we don’t limit ourselves in such a way, it’s just so tempting to go off into side alleys. When this happens, we say lots of words, but our hearers don’t have anything memorable and solid to take away. It’s all a bit vague and meandering. One of the principal problems with many sermons is that the speaker is caught between preaching and teaching. They are not the same. When preaching, the principal aim is to exhort and comfort. Either we’re challenging our hearers with the truth, or we’re comforting them with the truth. A good sermon is used by God’s Spirit to speak his truth into hearts who either need comfort or challenge. Sometimes both. When our focus is primarily on explanation, we lapse into teaching, an activity with great value, but extremely hard to do in half an hour. Often, preachers fall between two stools – they do a lot of explaining, and then tack on a quick exhortation at the end. It’s very hard to do well.[2] There are, of course, many ways to approach a sermon, but I’d like to challenge you as you prepare this Sunday’s sermon. Have you managed to condense down the main idea of the sermon to one sentence? Can that be shortened to three words? I encourage you to try. Many preachers like three-point sermons. I’m fine with that. But each point could and should be expressed in three words (more or less). I can’t tell you why three is such an explosive number. It just is. Here are some ideas from the New Testament. Love one another Forgive your enemies Your Kingdom come Obey the Lord Submit to God By faith alone In Christ alone Please stop arguing! Thank God more Pray for me Love your neighbours Worship God alone Trust in God Lose your life Love the marginalised Christ is Lord Be faithful always Of course, feel free to add a few extra words, if you feel they’re needed. This is not some magic formula. It’s just a healthy, useful exercise to help a preacher become a better communicator. Sometimes, more words are needed: Christ suffers for us God alone is worthy of worship Trust in God not man Be patient in love Love until it hurts Speak the truth in love As you prepare your sermon this week, I challenge you to summarise each point in three words. If you can’t, it may well not be clear. Even to you. If you can’t manage three words, just confine yourself to one sentence (of any length). For those who love the three-point sermon, I encourage you one day to try out the one-point sermon. This is a sermon that works in a circle. The main idea is expressed, then every subsequent point (there may be three) is related directly to the main point, which is repeated. You always circle back to the main point. When you do this, you’ll find the sermon is very memorable. Of course, not every passage lends itself to this approach. But some do. Many do. One final challenge. Try writing a three-word outline for every book of the Bible. I’ll get you started. Genesis: God creates everything. Exodus: God saves Israel. Leviticus: God gives law. Numbers: More laws, wandering. Deuteronomy: God’s law review. May the Lord be with you as you preach his word this week. 1. I’m using “man” here to represent all of humankind. I like it primarily because it’s a nice, short word. 2. Churches in which preaching and teaching are properly understood function better than those in which preaching and teaching are clumsily blended in the Sunday sermon. This is my own personal view, and you may have a different one.

Did you see the Queen on the balcony? Did you watch the video she made with Paddington? Perhaps we should all carry a marmalade sandwich around with us. This past weekend was all about one person. Regardless of your view on the role of the monarchy (and we recognise that Christians may legitimately differ on it), it’s hard not to admire the Queen as an individual. The Queen’s Platinum Jubilee was such a welcome respite from the news, wasn’t it? Boris in trouble, the Ukraine under renewed, intense attack, and travel chaos. Into this stepped the Queen, all smiles, and the nation breathed a sigh of relief. We celebrated with her. In the street. In the garden. Watching her on TV. Hanging up bunting. Clinking our tea cups. Many say she is an inspiration. I’m among them. Here are the ways she inspires me. FAITHFUL TO THE TASK There is a word for this. Duty. The queen made it clear from the very beginning of her reign that she understood and accepted her new role. She intended to be a faithful servant of the nation, whatever the demands placed upon her. In her Devotions, she wrote about her forthcoming coronation: By the anointing God makes, blesses, and consecrates me Queen: and I am till my dying day ‘his anointed servant’. In the anointing God creates a new relationship between himself and me, giving me for my use in this office just those resources of his divine grace which I need to dispose hands and heart and mind to do his will. No one chooses to be queen. Elizabeth II didn’t select “reigning monarch of the United Kingdom” from an array of career options. It was bestowed upon her, and though her uncle stepped aside from the throne, she was never once tempted to do the same. She was committed to her calling and all it entailed. None of us can understand the demands of the role. Only the tiny number who wear the crown can. We see the wealth, the fame, the privilege. We easily forget the long hours, the huge constraints on personal freedom, and the requirement at all times to think of the good of the nation. Faithful to the task. As you serve your church, are you faithful to the task? I do not equate this with long hours. This has to do with self-discipline and the sacrifices that leaders make to serve God’s people. Serving without complaining. Getting on with difficult people. Running meetings that sometimes achieve little. Making decisions that you know will upset people—because tough decisions are part of the job. Loving those who are demanding and needy. Tolerating a welter of criticism on Monday mornings, because some in the community take issue with the tiniest of details. Setting boundaries for staff members who, without thinking, sometimes do tasks that are not assigned to them. What is a leader to do? Be faithful in prayer. Be faithful in service. Be faithful in all things. To the Lord. To church. To family. Duty has to do with setting aside our own personal preferences for a greater good. Serving when it’s the last thing we want to do. “Ma’am, I’m afraid we need to add one more visit on that day.” Imagine how often the Queen has had to attend yet one more ceremony. So . . . When most people have left the building, you notice a person sitting in the back pew. Alone. Head down. You’re desperate to get home for lunch—you have visitors coming—but you head back in to sit and talk. It’s your duty. You are faithful to the task. FAITHFUL TO HER VALUES First, family. The Queen has always placed a high priority on family life. She always remained faithful to Prince Philip. As Christians, it’s been hard to watch the breakdown of her children’s marriages. In particular, her annus horribilis was filled with anguish. Through it all, the Queen has maintained her dignity. She has continued to serve. In truth, the value she has been forced to cultivate more than most has been tolerance. That might sound odd. Tolerance is the ability to accept, encourage, and work with people who disappoint you, hurt you, let you down, make poor choices, and sometimes embarrass you. The Queen is not perfect, but she has managed to exhibit patience, tolerance and love for people with whom she disagrees profoundly. Prime Ministers who made terrible decisions. Children who brought shame on the family. Marital breakdown throughout the next generation. Never once has the Queen come out and publicly criticised those who have hurt or embarrassed her. In a culture which has become known for its plethora of opinions—on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter—she keeps her counsel. Television interviews have been rare, and she has always ensured that her answers avoid controversy. It is a requirement of the job that she understands. Such an approach has served her well. Finally, grace—a concept strongly associated with the word, “jubilee,” which is taken from the Bible. Jubilee in ancient Israel[1] had to do with releasing people from their debts, freeing slaves, and returning property to the original owners. In short, it’s about grace and mercy.[2] How has the Queen demonstrated grace? A recent example should suffice. What do you do when your grandson goes on TV and publicly criticises the institution you have led your whole life? Harry and Meghan could quite easily have been ostracised from the family. Excluded from every royal event. Yet the Queen chose a different path. She extended grace. She placed a higher value on grace than on judgement. FAITHFUL TO GOD How can we know what goes on in the heart of the Queen, a person most of us only see on TV or read about in the paper? One way is to listen when she speaks. Here are some quotes: For me, the life of Jesus Christ . . . is an inspiration and an anchor in my life. Jesus Christ lived obscurely for most of his life, and never travelled far. He was maligned and rejected by many, though he had done no wrong. And yet, billions of people now follow his teaching and find in him the guiding light for their lives. I am one of them . . . I know just how much I rely on my faith to guide me through the good times and the bad. Each day is a new beginning. I know that the only way to live my life is to try to do what is right, to take the long view, to give of my best in all that the day brings, and to put my trust in God. Like others of you who draw inspiration from your own faith, I draw strength from the message of hope in the Christian gospel. Why does the Queen inspire me? Because, as someone who professes to be a follower of Jesus, she aspires me to serve him faithfully. Is that not the goal of all believers? To serve our Lord faithfully. To bring him glory. 1 – Sadly, the Israelites failed very badly when it came to enacting jubilee. 2 – See Leviticus 25

Burnout or breakdown? Hopefully neither, right? If you’re in Christian ministry, I’m sure you want to avoid both of these. But are they actually the same thing? Or, in this case, does semantics matter? I think it does. And I believe that once we come to grips with the meaning of these two words, we will find ourselves both challenged and encouraged. Recently, I’ve been pondering Christopher Ash’s helpful phrase, “sustainable sacrifice.”[1] It’s the kind of phrase that jumps off the page, because it offers hope. It describes an aspiration we all have as we attempt to reconcile two forces that appear to be in opposition: Ministry is costly. Sacrifices must be made. God desires healthy rhythms of life that give us longevity, so we can “finish the race” well. “Sustainable sacrifice” is the kind of phrase that gives us a glimmer of hope that we can reconcile the two. Might it be possible to make sacrifices and keep serving without burning out? Perhaps some wisdom can be found in considering the meaning of these two words, burnout and breakdown. My first observation is that we can be a little sloppy in our use of language. For example, Dr. Steve Midgley writes that “Burnout isn’t a medical diagnosis . . . nor is ‘mental breakdown’”. Yet we use these terms interchangeably to describe those who find themselves “tipping over the edge.”[2] But what do the words mean? I’ve noticed that in ministry circles, we’re far more likely to talk of burning out than breaking down. I suspect that this panders, perhaps subconsciously, to our works-orientated egos. If I’ve burnt out, then this is due to my hard work. In a perverse sort of way, it’s something to be celebrated. It draws from the kind of thinking attributed to the famous missionary, Amy Carmichael, who wrote, “I would rather burn out than rust out.” By contrast, breaking down sounds like something unwanted has happened to us. It feels, dare I say it, weaker. And that is really my point. There is a truth here to be grasped. For the very essence of the gospel is that we are broken, weak, and needy. We depend on Jesus for everything. His strength is made perfect in our weakness. Yet instead of confessing to our own need, we reach for the language of burnout. Perhaps because it is less shameful than breaking down? Or maybe because it is less humiliating than telling people that we’re struggling in both body and soul. So, here are a couple of reasons why we should embrace the language of breakdown. Burnout sounds final. An ash pile can’t be re-made into wood. Once burnt, one can’t be “unburned.” Breakdown, however, brings a person to a place of humility. It is precisely the starting point from which Jesus loves to work. For this reason, it is a much more hopeful term. I realise it comes with challenges, but it really is worth embracing. Anything that brings us to our knees before our Saviour—seeking his help, entrusting ourselves into his care—is a good thing. I cannot tell you how to avoid breaking down beyond the obvious. But today, I encourage you to avoid putting a spin on your pain, and presenting your hard work as a justification for your troubles. It is humility that the Lord desires, and that doesn’t come from working fourteen-hour days. “Breaking down” doesn’t sound good. There is a reason for this. It’s not the Lord’s design. He desires neither burnout nor breakdown for his servants. That’s why Christopher Ash includes the adjective, sustainable, next to sacrifice. It’s why God gave us the Sabbath—at least one day in seven when we are called to rest. It’s a pattern that both honours work, and provides a path towards longevity. It we take care of both our bodies and our souls, it is perfectly possible to finish the race well. In giving us a rhythm of life that includes rest, God has created us to be able to serve him sustainably. In the New Testament, the apostle Paul calls on husbands to care for their wives as for their own body. Love entails self-care. It doesn’t lead to burnout and the destruction of the body. It is not noble to tell oneself how many extra hours have been poured into the week. After all, from which well are we drawing? From the desperate urge to please others, or from the pure stream of God’s love and grace, filled to overflowing with his joy? Living Leadership exists to help leaders draw from a well that never runs dry—the joy of the Lord, the experience of his grace. That kind of self-care never runs out. So, let’s think about the language we use when we talk to each other. There is nothing virtuous in burning out. And “breaking down,” while a better term, is never God’s desire for us. So let us listen to each other well, and encourage each other when life is challenging. If you ever feel like you’re struggling, then don’t wait until it’s too late. Living Leadership can help. Our Associates will offer their time to listen and pray. And as we serve, may our lives be offered as “sustainable sacrifices.” Sustained, as they are, by the power and strength of our heavenly Father, who loves us, and the Son, who gave himself up for us. 1. Zeal without Burnout. Ash. p117. 2. Some helpful books on the subject: Going the Distance (Peter Brain), Serving without Sinking (John Hindley) and Zeal without Burnout (Christopher Ash) — all of which I would recommend.

Help! Confusion has entered the Underwood household! Mariia has arrived and our whole world has been turned upside down. A refugee from war-torn Ukraine, she has washed up on the shores of the U.K. and into our home. She’s not to blame, of course. In fact, she is an absolute delight, enriching our lives immeasurably. So why the confusion? In short, the language barrier. She speaks English as well as we speak Ukrainian. So you can imagine, can’t you? Our Ukrainian isn’t rusty . . . it’s practically non-existent! Gone is the witty riposte or the animated conversation over the meal table. Now, all communication has been reduced to short monosyllabic sentences delivered and received with a great deal of uncertainty via Google Translate*. The potential for misunderstandings is huge, as evidenced by a hilarious conversation about trifle recently! How did we get into this hopeless situation? Well, I blame our forefathers, the Babel-onians. Their story started after the Flood. Life was progressing apace in their time, and they had reached the point where they had both the technology and the will to work together. “Let's build a tower!” they said. The motive for this grand project? To reach to the heavens. How interesting! The name Babylon means the gate of heaven . . . the gate of god. The aim of these ancient Babel-onians was to build a city that would reach to heaven and establish their reputation forever. But there was another motivation lurking behind this project – fear. On the far side of Eden and out of fellowship with their Maker, the Babel-onians were suffering from a deep sense of insecurity. They believed that unless they took the initiative, their strength would be dissipated, and they would be scattered across the face of the earth. The irony, of course, is that they were half right. Like all good lies, it was half true. These ancient people were created by God to be like God – appointed to spread his good rule across the whole world. But that wasn’t enough for them. They wanted to rule the world for themselves – as we still do today. The outcome? It’s Genesis 3 all over again – more division and frustration. What was God’s response? Come, let us go down and confuse their language so they will not understand each other. Gen. 11.7 Loss of language meant they could no longer communicate . . . they no longer thought in the same way . . . so they couldn’t work together. And unable to work together, they were unable to build together. So the Lord scattered them from there over all the earth, and they stopped building the city. Gen 11.8 But it was more profound than that. Language is not just about expressing our thoughts; it’s about shaping our thoughts . . . moulding our values. It’s from our values that we create our cultures. Speak differently, and it won’t be long before we begin to see the world differently. And once we see the world differently, we begin to want different kinds of world. From that moment at Babel, then, national rivalries began to emerge. And that, ultimately, is the reason Mariia, along with millions of others, have been forced to flee their homes. And, indirectly, why Google Translate has become my best friend. What am I supposed to be learning from this? How is God speaking to me? Well, for a start, I’m learning to think before I speak. And when I speak, to do so with a smiling face and a warm heart. I’m also discovering that I need to be much clearer and more concise in what I say. I’m trying to put sloppy communication behind me. Finally, I’m learning to re-discover curiosity. How can I enter this young woman’s world? What can I learn from it? And how is God going to use Mariia to bring discomfort into my comfort zone, so that I grow? As we provide hospitality for Mariia, perhaps God is teaching us something new about our approach to evangelism. When the Lord Jesus issued his Great Commission, he instructed his followers to make disciples of all nations. When the Lord Jesus speaks about “the nations”, he doesn’t just mean people who are different from us ethnically, but people who are different from us in other, more subtle, ways too. As I think about the neighbours along my road, they largely share my ethnic background, but what “language” do they speak? How do they “see” the world we share? What are their hopes and dreams? What keeps them awake at night? To communicate with Mariia, I’ve been turning to Google Translate, but is there a spiritual equivalent that could come to my rescue? The good news is, yes there is! Right now, the Underwood household would be in meltdown without Google Translate. We would be gesticulating like cavepeople without the aid it provides. Yet its limitations are severe. For a start, its accuracy is dodgy at the best of times. I have no idea if it’s actually communicating what I want to say. But perhaps more importantly, it teaches me nothing. My Ukrainian remains at pre-beginner level, because the app offers no grammar or context. Furthermore, I wasn’t the only person to discover that Kiev is now Kyiv, and has little to do with small chicken bites filled with a tasty garlic sauce. Joking aside, Google Translate will never take me into Mariia’s world. And that’s because language is about more than words. It carries culture and values and experience. A computer app has no access to such things. But perhaps the most remarkable thing about this whole experience is the window that my wife, Pippa, and I have gained into another world. Mariia has arrived suddenly on the shores of the U.K. and now has breakfast with us every day - a living, breathing person from another culture, whose faltering attempts to talk bring us joy along with many laughs, tears, and frustrations. The Holy Spirit is at work in us and through us (I pray), as we communicate the truth about the Lord Jesus by caring for her. That is His work, for sure. But the Lord is doing more. He is slowly dismantling barriers in our hearts, and inviting us into an unfamiliar world . . . a world that is not our home. What did those Babel-onians ever do for me? Well, in a roundabout way, they brought us Mariia from another world. Because of their rebellion, we are not only learning to use Google Translate, we’re taking steps into a colourful, new world. We’ve only just crossed the border, clutching our passports, but we’re excited to travel somewhere challenging, different, and exciting. And as we arrive in this new world, we are absolutely certain that God is already at work there. *Other translation apps are available.

Tommy Tucker is ten years old. He stares down at the desktop. His heart is racing; his palms are sweaty. Miss Beaumont is calling up each pupil, one by one, to “go over” their homework. It’s his turn next. “Tucker!” The teacher’s voice booms out around the classroom. Tommy gets up and walks down slowly towards Miss Beaumont’s huge oak desk. When he arrives, he looks up at the bespectacled woman, whose hair is tied neatly into a bun on the back of her head. She takes off her glasses and lets them dangle down on a gold chain. She peers at him, her brow furrowed. She doesn’t look happy. “Twelve out of twenty, Tommy. I’m disappointed in you.” Tommy mutters something about trying harder next time and wanders back to his desk. When he sits down, he looks down at his maths homework. Alongside the mark, Miss Beaumont has written in bold red letters: COULD DO BETTER. Could do better. I wonder if there is a part of you that relates to Tommy Tucker. It is such a common experience, isn’t it? Either a parent or a teacher whom you disappointed. Or an expectation that you failed to meet – either created by yourself or by authority figures in your life. Wounds of this kind go very deep. So deep, in fact, that we can find ourselves in denial, pretending that we’ve “got over it now.” Sadly, could-do-better thinking leads to several serious problems in the life of the believer. For leaders, these effects spread far and wide, since they set the tone in their communities. WORKAHOLISM This is the most common response to could-do-better. Just work more. Try harder. Do more. If I just work harder, then I’m doing better. Given that my church seems to evaluate my performance by how much I’m doing, I will simply work harder. Perhaps then they (and my very own Miss Beaumont) will be satisfied with me. Well, you know what we at Living Leadership think of that. Not much. We were founded to help leaders find rest and healthy rhythms in their lives. Our primary goal is to help leaders experience the grace of God and the joy of the Lord. We aim to help leaders avoid burnout by drawing their strength directly from the Lord. Workaholism not only leads to burnout, it signals wrong thinking. It’s both a failure to understand grace, and a motivation for ministry that is misguided. This is quite apart from the reality that leaders who work long hours are often those who don’t delegate. They’re always hoping that their own Miss Beaumont will one day say, “Well done, Tommy. Good work!” Except that day never comes. Because they could always be working harder. PEOPLE PLEASING Could-do-better tells you that if you perform well, you will be affirmed, and maybe even loved. It is Pharisaic in origin, and therefore, it is antithetical to the gospel of grace. Could-do-better in church inevitably leads to people-pleasing, one of the most crippling attributes of a leader. People-pleasing requires strict law-keeping (both cultural and moral laws) and worse than that, it ensures that a leader is essentially a follower, not a leader. Weak and fearful. Not bold and brave. People pleasers follow the signals coming from the people, and they keep the people happy by giving them what they want. Since when did this bold, beautiful, wonderful faith become a timid, risk-averse, image-protecting project? Church history might help a little. It didn’t take long before the courageous, grace-filled believers lost their way. Legalism quickly replaced grace; control replaced freedom; power replaced service. But we don’t live in those early years of the church. We live now, post-1517. People-pleasing creeps in through the back door when a noble aspiration morphs into something quite different. Without our noticing it, “I’m here to serve my community” quickly turns into “I’m here to please the people.” Driven by could-do-better, I prioritise what people want, because out there in the pews, they all start looking like Miss Beaumonts. And it’s important to please her. If I pleased her, then . . . she would approve of me. Maybe she would even love me. So we play it safe. We never take risks. We work out what the people want and we give it to them. Over and over again. The wild, free animal that is Aslan becomes a kitten we place in a cage. It’s worth remembering C.S. Lewis’ timeless words in the mouth of Mr. Beaver: 'Course he isn't safe. But he's good. Perhaps the saddest and most heart-rending truth about people pleasers is that they will never find true joy. Not only because they’re driven by fear and a lie, but because they are divorced from the true source of joy. Lacking faith in the ability of God to guide them, leaders turn back to their followers, hoping that if they can please them, they will find peace, and God will be satisfied. Poor Pastor Tommy. Poor Rev. Tucker. So what’s the answer? GRACE Grace is an otherworldly concept. It is so far removed from our human experience that even though it is central to our worldview, and our relationship to God, its truth often eludes us. We can explain it, but living it out often defeats us. We get the theory, but we don’t internalise it. The other day, I had a chat with a lovely young woman in church. She confessed that keeping the rules was really important to her. I asked her how she squared this with grace, and in truth, she couldn’t. Rule-keeping was so ingrained that it was impossible for her to let it go. And when you think about it, it’s not surprising. Our entire human experience tells us that we don’t receive unless we perform in some way. Eat your peas, then TV. Pass the exam, receive the certificate. Work hard, get the promotion. And then God comes along and tells us that he’ll give us a completely new life (and a life to come) for which we are required to pay absolutely nothing at all. Zero. Not a thing. Just accept with open hands and heart. What?! “No, hold on,” says could-do-better Tommy. I’m still called to live a good life, am I not? Well, yes, that’s true, but it sounds like you’ve linked the two. And God never, ever, does that. He never, ever requires virtue as a payment for grace. Never. Ever. Grace is free. Always. Or it isn’t grace. The thing is, if you’ve lived inside a could-do-better mindset most of your life, how does this even make sense? Most of us have our theological ducks in a row, but the design – all in a row – it’s so often “out there,” not “in here, deep in my heart.” In response, we preach about grace, but inside, we cling to could-do-better. We try to meet others’ expectations. We work harder. We value appearance over grace. Today, as you read these words, I wonder how God is speaking to you? If there is even a tiny piece of Tommy Tucker inside you, are you prepared to let him go? Are you able to turn to your own Miss Beaumont and say, “Thank you, but no, I don’t owe you anything. I don’t live for you.” But most importantly, will you take some time this week to breathe in the wonder of God’s grace. Freely given. Every day. Not just once. Every day. Will you give yourself permission to receive grace deep into your spirit? You don’t owe anything. It’s all paid up. Just enjoy God’s unwavering favour, which never fails, never stalls, never fades. And let go of could-do-better. You will never work hard enough, so stop trying. You will never please all the people, so stop trying. Instead, live inside grace until it pours out of you, and saturates all you do and say. May the Lord bless you richly as you serve him this week.

What quality matters most in a church leader? There are many candidates. • Integrity • Servant Heart • Compassion • Hard work • Holiness • Wisdom • A healthy devotional life All of the above are important, of course. Especially that last one. Today, however, I’d like to offer a candidate that is sometimes either ignored or taken for granted. • Relationship builder/maintainer/repairer I was inspired to write on this after reading the following quote by Pete Greig. Here it is, slightly paraphrased. 85% of my time as a pastor is invisible. It’s spent behind the scenes building teams. Not preaching. Not counselling. Not studying. Nothing worth sharing on social media. Not even praying. ?Most of my waking, working day is spent quietly choreographing the space between people, noticing, listening and over-communicating, pre-empting problems. Whenever the pH is right in the soil, seeds sprout naturally, fruit forms inevitably in season. As in nature, so in super-nature: whenever teams are healthy, culture thrives, life reproduces life, fruit forms in season. But when relationships go wrong, everything swerves to rot. It’s exhausting and demoralising. Businesses, charities, and churches alike quickly become driven and machine-like whenever their leaders start prioritising productivity above people, results above relationships. I wish they spent longer on these soft skills in seminaries and business schools. I wish we looked for EQ as much as IQ in those who aspire to be our executives, our politicians and our pastors. I long for leaders who understand that being relational and nurturing healthy relationships is not just a desirable part of the job. It is the job. In the famous words of the late, great Peter Drucker: “Culture eats strategy for breakfast.” And in the even more famous words of the greatest leader of all time (addressed to his own rather unimpressive senior team): “I have called you friends.” (John.15.15) Relationships with people. Not results. Not numbers. Nothing to do with presenting a favourable image. Social media, programs, money, reputation–nowhere to be seen. Just people. It’s the people who matter, and of course, it’s the people who cause the problems. Not the computers or the building, or the publicity, or the sermon preparation. The people. Why are relationships so important? And why does Pete Greig see them as absolutely central to leadership? Here are my thoughts. 1) God is relational at his very core. We don’t spend nearly enough time on the doctrine of the Trinity.* If we did, we’d soon enter into the extraordinary truth that God is God-in-community. A mutually, self-supportive, love-giving community of three persons possessed of the singular divine essence. God is not one, but three-in-one. As such, he is eternally ‘in relationship.’ Indeed, in perfect relationship. And this truth expresses the very core of his being. For he is love, and how could he be love without another to love? No, he did not create us because he was lonely. He created us to enjoy the intimacy of his relational being. We are invited into the very centre of his three-ness, nestled in there between Father, Son, and Spirit, loved by those who in their unity share the divine essence. Why is leadership about relationship? Because we worship a fundamentally relational being, for whom relationships are an essential part of his being. They’re not ‘out there,’ or ‘optional.’ They are the essence of who he is. Because he is love. As his image-bearers, we mirror God to the world. That means relationships are essential to us too. And even more than that, they are an essential part of being human. As John Donne noted, ‘No man is an island.’ Not ‘don’t be an island.’ Instead, he’s saying something quite different. He’s saying, ‘To be human, it is not possible to be an island.’ In the Great Divorce by C.S. Lewis, a narrator is taken on a bus trip to hell. There, he is shown houses, where people live alone. The further into hell he goes, the further apart they are. It is no surprise that some say that a person with no relationships is no longer human at all. I’m not sure about that claim, but the truth remains: Relationships are essential to us, as they are essential to God. 2) The church is a body. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work. Eph. 4.15 You’re hiking up in the hills. A small stone works its way into your boot. A blister develops. It hurts a lot. Now, all you can think of is your sore heel. It’s no good telling yourself that your elbow feels fine, so you don’t need to think about your heel. Or your eyes are working well. Because frankly, the view doesn’t look nearly as good now that you can think of nothing else but your heel that is screaming at you. We are a body. We are all connected. When one part is suffering, we all suffer. But more importantly, perhaps, we are connected in relationship to each other. We are not necessarily responsible for every single need in the community, but we are connected. As the leader, you are ‘in relationship’ with all the members of your church. In large churches, you may not know everyone well, but make no mistake, every relationship is important. And the closer you are to them—elder board, associate pastor, children/youth leader—the more important the relationship. The whole church is a web of relationships, each one an engine generating the aroma of Christ to the glory of God, when it is working well, in self-giving love. As the leader, you model relationship to everyone else in the church. If you’re isolated, or falling out with people, the effect on the church is significant. Because you’re an important part of the body. 3) Love is the most important thing in the universe. Need I write more? God is love. To live like him, we are called to love like him. That entails relationship, of course. So when people hurt us, or disappoint us, our response demonstrates either love or our lack of it. Avoidance, procrastination, passive aggression, manipulation—they are all ways in which we fail to show love. Let’s add denial, pretense, patronising, and ignoring. Because leaders have power, they have an arsenal of different responses to protect themselves. But they need just one: love and all that flows from it. 4) Grace is about the restoration of relationship. Every week when we share communion, or preach on the cross, we help people to focus on the restoration of relationship. We’re not saved to ‘wait for heaven.’ We’re saved so that we can know, enjoy, and bring glory to God. We’re saved for relationship. Grace is the very heart of the gospel, so it is the height of hypocrisy for a leader to preach the gospel of grace, knowing that relationships are broken. That’s unacceptable. It damages the preaching of the gospel, and harms the leader’s reputation. Why should we listen to a person who talks about God’s forgiveness, but who refuses to reach out to someone at odds with him? Why respect someone who seems to place so little value on repairing relationships when they’re damaged? Nurturing, maintaining, and repairing our relationships isn’t an option. As Pete Greig points out, it is the job. It’s the job! This is a subject that will run and run. I will be coming back to it. Today, here are a few questions to ruminate on through the week. Do I have any broken relationships in my community that I need to repair? What am I doing to nurture my most important relationships? Eg. How well am I supporting and encouraging my co-leaders (associate minister/elders/youth leader etc) How could I improve? How often do I admit to my own mistakes, taking responsibility, and seeking forgiveness? How is God speaking to me about my relationships? What is he saying as I sit here after reading this post? Take a few minutes to listen. Then respond. *I recommend Embracing the Trinity. Fred Sanders. IVP. 2010.

“What I say to you I say to all: Stay awake.” These words close Mark 13, the chapter recording Jesus’ ‘Olivet Discourse’. Jesus has spoken about future events, both the destruction of the Jerusalem Temple in AD 70 and his still-awaited return in glory. Faced with wars and rumours of wars, He calls his disciples to remain faithful, trusting in His Word and Spirit’s enabling as they continue the task of preaching the gospel to all nations. Three times in the closing verses of Mark 13, Jesus says “stay awake”. That means more than noticing what is happening in the world. It means awareness of what God is doing and focus on His purposes. In our age of instant information, we hear of wars and see the images. We may think we are alert because we are informed, but Jesus challenges us to a different level of consciousness –awareness of God’s work and assurance of God’s timing. So, are you wide awake? The same word translated ‘stay awake’ in Mark 13 appears another three times in Mark 14 (‘watch’ in the ESV). Jesus is back with the disciples on the Mount of Olives a few days after his Olivet Discourse. In between, we have read of the plot to kill Him, His anointing in Bethany, Judas’ decision to betray Him, His last Passover meal and institution of the Lord’s Supper, and His prediction of Peter’s denial. Now, He goes to the Garden of Gethsemane. As He turns to prayer, He commands His disciples to “Stay here and watch” (verse 34). You know what happened next. They slept! Three times, Jesus came to them and rebuked them. Specifically, He spoke to Simon Peter, saying, “Could you not watch one hour? Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation” (verses 37-38). Three times in Gethsemane, Jesus came to the disciples and found them sleeping. Three times in Mark 13 and another three times in Mark 14, He charged them to stay awake. Three times Peter would deny Jesus just as Jesus had said he would shortly before He went to Gethsemane. Reflecting on Jesus’ command to Peter to stay awake, I was drawn to Peter’s letters, where the apostle passes on the lessons he has learned to a new generation of believers. In 1 Peter 5:8, he writes: Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Satan wants to destroy God’s work of God and prevent God’s work through us. We must be alert to his lies. So, what is Satan’s chief tactic against you? Is it temptation to a specific besetting sin? Or perhaps doubts about the faith or your ability to hold on to it? Maybe he accuses you, saying you cannot be forgiven, that you are beyond God’s grace. Behind each of these attacks are Satan’s lies. The lie that you cannot resist the temptation or that giving into it will bring happiness. The lie that God’s Word cannot be trusted or that your own ability to hold on is what saves. The lie that Christ’s sacrifice was not enough or that God’s promise never to abandon you is unreliable. Hear the words of the apostle Peter, forged in the crucible of experience. Be watchful for Satan, alert to his schemes. It is not only Peter who reminds us of Jesus’ command to stay awake and be watchful. The apostle Paul does so too. In Colossians 4:2, he writes: Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving. We must watch out for diabolical opposition, but we must also be watchful for divine opportunities. Steadfast in prayer, noticing what God is doing and giving thanks for it as we seek His wisdom and leading. So, are you continuing steadfastly in prayer? Do you simply go through the motions or do you pray because you know it is only through prayer that we can see as God sees, love as God loves and act as Christ acts. Be watchful in prayer, alert to God’s leading. We have another use of the same verb by the apostle Paul, in Acts 20:28-32 where he speaks to the Ephesian elders: Pay careful attention to yourselves and to all the flock, of which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to care for the church of God, which he obtained with his own blood. I know that after my departure fierce wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock; and from among your own selves will arise men speaking twisted things, to draw away the disciples after them. Therefore be alert We need to stay alert to the possibility that some of those who have been appointed to shepherd the flock will instead abuse it. We have heard the stories in recent years, but the apostle predicted it. We must recognise that could even be us. Listen to Paul’s charge. The Church belongs to God. It was obtained with His own blood. And our task of overseeing it is a gift from the Holy Spirit. Yet, Paul says, fierce wolves will come among the flock and they may even arise from among these elders. What turns a shepherd into a wolf? Marcus Honeysett’s book Powerful Leaders? for an insightful analysis. Put simply here, though, it is the pursuit of a following. When unchecked, the desire to be successful, to have an impact, to leave a legacy can go awry. When it becomes about ourselves – my reputation, my legacy, my ministry – not the Lord – His glory, His inheritance, His service – we have a problem. So, who are you making disciples for – yourself or Jesus? Do you speak much about Jesus, or do you tend to drift into talking about yourself? Are you encouraging people towards maturity and healthy dependence on Him or keeping them as infants with an unhealthy dependency on you? Does the way you lead suggest that you are aware of the sacred trust you have, to be given responsibility to watch over God’s precious people, guiding and guarding them? I should add that this command to watch is not only to each individual elder but to the group collectively. It expects mutual accountability. Be watchful as shepherds, alert to the allure of power. So, here we have three things we must be watchful for. Three reasons to stay awake. First, the devil is on the prowl. We must stay awake to be on the defence. Second, God is at work. We must stay awake to be steadfast in prayer to follow Him. Third, shepherds can turn on the flock. We must stay awake to stay true to our calling. These three reasons for watchfulness are also found in the Lord’s words to Peter when He predicted his denial. Let us hear what Jesus said to him from Luke Chapter 22 verses 31 to 34: Simon, Simon, behold, Satan demanded to have you, that he might sift you like wheat, but I have prayed for you that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned again, strengthen your brothers. Do you see the three ideas we saw in the epistles? Watchful because Satan wants to destroy. Watchful in prayer because God is at work. Watchful as shepherds who strengthens our brothers. Except here it is not about what Peter does at all. Here is Peter, confident in his strength, faithfulness and dependability. That has been me too often. I like to think I am capable. I want to be reliable. That is not a bad thing, I suppose, but in it is the seed of pride. And that pride sends me into a slumber where I miss Satan’s schemes, God’s promptings, and my own desire for significance. I am strong, so Satan cannot get at me. I am capable, so I do not need to pray. I am faithful, so I will not ever abuse power. Peter was confident, but Jesus knew just how weak this big fisherman was. He knew his denial was coming. He had heard Satan demanding to get his claws into Peter. He knew Peter did not have what it takes to stand against that attack. Only through Jesus’ intercession could Peter be saved. Jesus knew that was why He must go to Gethsemane and on to Golgotha. He knew too that Peter’s failure won’t be final. He knew He would stand days later on the Galilean shoreside beside a smouldering fire, the smell of grilled fish in His nostrils, asking Peter three times whether he loves Him (John 21). Three times the question for the man who denied Jesus three times. The Lord’s heart surgery, tenderly restoring Him and calling Him afresh to follow and to feed His sheep. Simon the fisherman became Peter the apostle because of the Lord Jesus who called Him, interceded for Him and commissioned Him. You too have become, have you not, what you now are through the grace of Christ alone who called you, who intercedes for you and whose commission to make disciples for Him is your priority? We do not know when the Master will return, but He is surely coming soon. So, wake up and be watchful. Watchful for Satan, alert to his schemes. Watchful in prayer, alert to God’s leading. Watchful as shepherds, alert to the allure of power.

Meet Pastor[1] Bruce. He’s a new leader of a local church, having taken up his post six months ago. He’s in his mid-thirties, and this is his first senior position. He’s arrived with lots of enthusiasm, energy and ideas. His interview went well, and he thought he made a good impression on the elder board. Now he’s not so sure. Six months in, and he’s hitting roadblocks. Two of the elders are causing problems, opposing several of his initiatives. He’s only been there a short time, and already he’s become discouraged. He thought the church employed him to bring in fresh ideas – he shared some of them during the hiring process – but now it seems he can’t make any headway with his plans. His first thought is, ‘How can I get around these elders?’ He doesn’t realise it, but he’s standing on dangerous ground. Not only that, the ground is sloped, and it is slippery. Stop reading. Look away from the computer/phone, and spend a minute or two thinking of the advice you would give Pastor Bruce. Consider your own response first. Then combine your own wisdom with what you read now . . . In his excellent new book, Powerful Leaders?, Marcus Honeysett describes what can happen when leaders misuse their power. At the far end of the spectrum are leaders who make one’s blood run cold. They are nakedly ambitious, and they set out to dominate and control. I have never met such people; fortunately, they are relatively rare in the church. Most of the leaders I know are good, kind, generous people. They desire to lead well. I hope that’s you. In Powerful Leaders?, Marcus Honeysett writes, It is easy to convince ourselves that we are pursuing success not for ourselves but for other people and the kingdom of God . . . Leaders can feel that the desire for more is driven by holy zeal and not by selfishness or neediness.[2] This, I believe, is the ‘pinch point’ for many leaders. Including Pastor Bruce. He wants to lead well. He has ideas. They are not selfish. Indeed, they are for the benefit of God’s kingdom and the church. Without realising it, his own ideas and the will of God are seamlessly combined. To oppose his ideas becomes opposition to God. That should raise a huge red flag. For we are not God, however much we may believe that we’ve been placed in a role to carry out his will. So what should Pastor Bruce do? Like all leaders, he has formal, legitimate power, as well as what might be termed ‘relational power.’ Formal power is out in the open, accountable, and subject to scrutiny. It’s clearly defined. Relational power is soft power, based on forming relationships. It is developed through the many connections a leader makes with people – especially influencers – in the congregation. The youth leader, the music leader, the admin staff, the elders, the missions committee, these are all people with whom the leader works closely. There is nothing wrong with relational power, but it contains the potential for misuse. Especially when a leader’s plans become frustrated. Pastor Bruce has a variety of options in tackling his problems. Many leaders will opt for manipulation, converting their soft power into effective action outside formal structures. He may simply go ahead with a project that’s been turned down, tweak it a bit, and see what happens. Others might play the victim, presenting faux vulnerability in order to achieve their goals. In Powerful Leaders? Marcus Honeysett describes a number of responses that lead down that slippery slope. I’d like to offer a response of my own: Lose, occasionally. Yes, lose. Since when did Christian leadership entail getting our own way all the time? Surely this is the way of the world. Worldly leaders demand loyalty and they exercise power to show that they are strong. Godly leaders follow the way of the cross. Marcus Honeysett writes, Power must be exercised wholly for the benefit of others and not for the benefit of the leader. Christian leadership, modelled on Jesus’ leadership, is self-giving, not self-serving.[3] Pastor Bruce has only been in his post for six months, but he’s already frustrated because he’s not able to implement his plans, plans that he believes have God’s approval. He needs to stop for a moment and remember his calling. To serve. Is he able to serve, when his ideas are rejected? Of course. Has his pride been wounded? Almost certainly. Is he concerned that he will look weak? Very likely. A meditation on Christ’s surrender in the Garden of Gethsemane is in order. Christ lost. Completely. He gave up his power, and in doing so, he gave up his life. He demonstrated use of power that is entirely at odds with the way power is exercised in the world. He lost, and in doing so, he won. Eventually. If we lose well, we may find that God honours us and enables us to ‘win’ later. At the next elders’ meeting, Pastor Bruce decides to spend as much time with his two opponents as possible. He listens a lot and speaks little. He is gracious and he makes a real effort to understand what motivates these two men, who have been in the church for several decades. Pastor Bruce loses the vote. The church building will not be rented out during the week to earn some extra income. Instead, it will be left empty. Nor will the church be hiring another youth worker. Apparently, there are insufficient funds. The link between these two decisions appears to go unnoticed. Inside, he shakes his head in disbelief, but he is not bitter. He accepts the will of the board. Then he decides to love his enemies. He has learned that loving one’s enemies may sometimes mean loving his brothers who oppose him. So he sets out to build a relationship with these two men. They are, after all, his co-labourers. He moves towards them, not away from them. The difference here is that he has no intention of building soft power in order to manipulate them. In truth, they may never accept some of his ideas, and that will always be a disappointment. But he’s become more focused on what he can do than on what he can’t. Because it’s okay to lose. Occasionally. I write ‘occasionally,’ because a leader cannot continue as a leader when every move he makes is blocked. If a church shows no interest in following a leader, then that leader may have to move on. But that’s the subject of another post. Losing is hard. It tests us, but it also reveals our character. And that’s what counts in the end – the person we’re becoming. Perhaps most importantly, however, we need to remember that we serve a God who doesn’t see success and failure the way that we do. In his kingdom, we receive by giving, we are blessed through service, we make sacrifices and discover that our loss is actually our gain, and we are given life through laying down our lives. But what if God’s will is also our will?! What happens if our plans are genuinely good, and they’re being thwarted by people whose ideas frustrate the will of God? Good question. Have a little faith, Pastor Bruce. God is more interested in building your character than achieving your goals. Yes, even when they are right and noble goals. It’s how you respond when you fail that matters more to your Lord than when you succeed. It’s your dependence on God’s grace, and your growth in loving difficult people that transforms you most into the image of your God. And your response? There are few things more godly than losing graciously. Indeed, it is one of the powerful things you can do. So you may have lost, but in losing well, you have won a prize that is eternal. And make no mistake, those two elders will notice how you lose, the grace you show, and your willingness to submit to decisions with which you disagree. That’s worth its weight in gold. And if one day, they fire you, is that the worst that could happen? No, it isn’t. Losing a job isn’t like losing a life. So lose, occasionally, and you will soon find you’re growing. That, surely, is a win. 1. Other church leadership titles are available. 2. Powerful Leaders. Marcus Honeysett. IVP. 2022. p.60 3. Powerful Leaders. Marcus Honeysett. IVP. 2022. p.22

I love words. For example, where did that word ‘etymology’ come from? Hmm, I wonder. And since we’re on the subject of interesting words, I came across a new one on social media the other day: Flagitiousness. It has a nice ring to it, don’t you think? It means ‘marked by scandalous crime or vice.’ It’s hard to pronounce but it has some punch. An English word of Latin origin, it was used by a Scotsman, but I thought it needed testing. So I sounded it out loud – yes, I am known to do this fairly often, always in private – and I thought it sounded Scottish.* I love words and their comedic effect, which reminds me of an episode of Blackadder, in which Edmund Blackadder intones, ‘‘Oh I'm sorry, sir. I'm anaspeptic, phrasmotic, even compunctuous to have caused you such pericombobulation!” They are inventions to mock Dr Johnson’s dictionary, but as some commentators point out, they are also words whose meaning you can conjecture if you have the skill of an etymologist. (Not entomologist. That’s for people who study insects.) Even prosaic words such as ‘trousers,’ ‘flammable,’ or ‘wardrobe,’ can have comedic value, as guests have demonstrated during a round of Word Dissociation on BBC Radio Four’s I’m Sorry I Haven’t A Clue. To make a serious point now, let me turn to the Bible, where every word is the very breath of God. In the Scriptures, we are given pin-point accuracy in the extant Greek of the first century. I have written previously about different words for ‘time’ - chronos and kairos - and the depth of meaning we derive from knowing which one is used in which context. Well, it’s the same with our English word ‘life.’ There are three Greek words for ‘life’ in the New Testament: bios, psychē, and zoe. 1. Bios. This is the word from which we get our word ‘biology.’ It means the life of the body, or physical life. It is used in Luke 8.14, ‘And as for what fell among the thorns, they are those who hear, but as they go on their way they are choked by the cares and riches and pleasures of life.’ 2. Psychē. This is the word from which we derive the idea of the psyche. It is the prefix used in both ‘psychology’ and ‘psychiatry.’ In Matthew 16.25, it is used of the Lord Jesus when he says: “For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.” Here, the word ‘psyche’ is focused on the mind, will, and emotions. As human beings, we have both a ‘bios’ and a ‘pyschē’ because God made us this way in Genesis 2.8. We read, ‘The Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living soul.’ The word used in this latter phrase is the Hebrew word ‘nepeš’ which means soul. There is a lot of discussion in theological circles - and psychiatric circles too - about what this really means. My own view is that we instinctively know that we are both physical and spiritual beings. That’s why we can investigate the ‘yellow’ of daffodils but we can also give voice to how we feel, like William Wordsworth: ‘When all at once I saw a crowd, A host, of golden daffodils; Beside the lake, beneath the trees, Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.’ We are moved in our hearts as well as curious in our minds. We can explore scientifically and we can wonder emotionally! The third word in Greek for ‘life’ is zoe. And here we are on to something really special. 3. Zoe. The Apostle John uses this word a lot when he records his understanding of Jesus. In John 1.4, he writes, 'In him was life, and the life was the light of men.’ It describes the kind of life uniquely possessed by God. Eternal, immortal, life not derived from anywhere or anyone else. In 1 John 1.1-2, we have a further expansion. He writes, ‘That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we looked upon and have touched with our hands, concerning the word of life— the life was made manifest, and we have seen it, and testify to it and proclaim to you the eternal life, which was with the Father and was made manifest to us.’ The Word mentioned in John 1.4 is the Lord Jesus. So is the ‘word of life’ in 1 John 1.1 and ‘life’ in 1 John 1.2. They are both synonymous with the person of Christ. In addition, ‘the eternal life’ in 1 John 1.2 says literally, ‘The life the eternal.’ This zoe is the divine spiritual life, not the human soulish life or our physical life. Furthermore, we can only receive it through a living link with Jesus. ‘Eternal’ denotes not only duration of time but also quality, which is perfect and complete, without any defect. Now read John 10.10b replacing ‘life’ with zoe. I came that they may have life (zoe) and have it abundantly. Christ as the eternal life came so that we could have the eternal, divine life. He didn’t come so that we could have an improved human life. He came so we could have him. By our physical birth, we possess bios and psyche. But when we believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, we are born again with the divine life. So now that we’ve received Christ, the divine life, our Christian life must be fully involved with him. What Christ wants is for us to enjoy his life! I hope you can see the power contained within words. Their precise meaning reveals so much to us. Indeed, in the word ‘zoe’ we have a word that shows us a new kind of life; it’s a gift from God, that comes only from him, and is for him. Hold that thought today as you serve him. As you leave, take Galatians 2.20 into your day with fresh eyes: It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live (zaō) in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. *Editor’s note: It sounded Scottish, so it clearly has Jim’s stamp of approval!

The Passion is like a diamond. We stand in awe of it. It is a many splendoured thing, so saturated with truth and wonder that we will never truly understand it fully. It is a gift. We receive it. And we give thanks. Here are some thoughts to aid your reflections. SIN The Passion is a picture of abject suffering. A man beaten almost to death at a whipping post, then strung up on a beam to die. Slowly. It evokes our strongest emotions. It also reminds us of our sin. Stuart Townend’s hymn, How Deep the Father’s Love, is particularly insightful, yet one line stands out for me. It was my sin that held him there. This is my doing. I’m responsible for this. As an earlier line from the hymn states, ‘my guilt upon his shoulders.’ This wonderful, wise, compassionate man, who invited the poor and destitute into his fold, who spoke truth, was bold, brave, and remarkable . . . I have killed him. I’m no better than Pilate or Herod. Oh how can this be?! How can I avoid the huge burden that now weighs upon my soul? As I survey the scene, I’m still there, gazing up transfixed. Why? Because I’m a serial offender. My persistent guilt, demonstrated each day in weakness and sin, keeps me there, so when I view the cross, Christ is still hanging there in my place. He won’t come down. For some, this is why the crucifix shows Christ nailed upon a cross. Guilt and shame never go away, so there is a daily need to cling to a crucified Saviour, in an attempt to assuage the guilt. And that’s not right. That’s not right at all. Because we’re only part-way through the story. The empty cross is our glory. A risen Saviour is our boast. We’re not shackled in guilt, but as the hymn states, ‘his dying breath has brought me life.’ ‘How awful, then, when we turn to religion. What a travesty when we talk about grace, but live out of law. What a betrayal of our faith when we set aside our freedom to offer ‘virtuous rule-keeping’ in an attempt to pay off our debt. It’s addictive, because ‘being good’ certainly seems to ease the guilt. Stop! Such thinking must stop immediately. For if grace does not give us freedom, right now, it is not fit for purpose. The Passion was never intended to keep us there bowed before a bloody man, wringing our hands in regret and shame. It was always supposed to show us love, the great love of God who removes all guilt and shame. It was always supposed to set us free. It does set us free! Pause for a moment. Questions for reflection: When you think of your guilt, what do you do with it? What does God’s grace actually mean to you? To whom is God calling you to extend grace today? FULFILMENT John, in his gospel, constantly talks about fulfilment. He’s obsessed with it. For me, fulfilment is both an apologetic and a testament to the symmetry and beauty of the story-telling in the bible. It is remarkable how all the pieces fit together. More importantly, however, fulfilment speaks about love and commitment. Not ours. God’s. When Christ fulfils Scripture, he does so to demonstrate that he’s the Messiah. But he also does so to show that God fulfils his promises. When we promise to do something, we give our whole-hearted commitment to follow through in the face of whatever obstacles may stand in our way. That’s why marriage vows are so precious. When John keeps pointing out Christ’s fulfilment of Old Testament prophecy, he’s saying this: Israel’s God, YHWH, who formed a people and set them apart, he’s a God who can be trusted to follow through. He’s a God who saves. He’s a God of everlasting love and commitment to those he loves. He has never changed, and since the beginning of the world, he’s been working on a plan to save humanity. Its culmination has now arrived. See all the signs in the life of his Messiah? They show that God is a promise-keeper and now he’s fulfilling his promise to save those he loves. Questions for Reflection: How important are promises to you? God promised to rescue you through giving his Son. How do you respond today to that truth? Whom do you trust? In the face of difficulties and struggle, do you trust God? How do you show it? PURPOSE We can put up with almost anything if there’s a purpose to it. This is especially true of suffering. My favourite moment in the movie, The Passion of the Christ, is when Mary kneels down next to Jesus, who’s collapsed while carrying his cross. He looks up at his mum, and says, ‘See, mother, I make all things new.’ It is one of the most poignant moments in the movie, while also conveying a profound truth – to be meaningful, suffering absolutely must have a purpose within the will of God. It must. We are not masochists, bent on our own destruction. We are called to give our lives away, to make sacrifices for our God, because that’s why we live. That’s our purpose, which means our suffering has purpose. The Passion is the moment when God, in Christ, ‘makes all things new.’ He begins the work of restoring our world, and in order to confront evil, that work requires suffering in the service of a noble and holy goal. It cannot be avoided. This is the God we serve. He is committed, and loving, and brave. He doesn’t wring his hands and wish that everything will work out. He does what’s required to save us. And then he calls us to suffer and die with him. How is the Lord speaking you to this Easter? Take some time to reflect and pray. Questions for Reflection: How brave are you? What difficult thing is God calling you to do? As you meditate on the Passion of your Lord, what new thing do you see?

You’re sitting in a coffee shop alone. You’ve just finished your book, so you start chatting to a person at the table next to you. You tell them you’re a Christian, you lead a church, and the first thing you hear is all the stuff about why religions are bad. You listen patiently. They seem a little upset. You empathise. They blow themselves out, because you’re not defensive. So far, so good. You want to talk about Jesus, but when you think about it, that’s a huge leap. Can I interest you in a man who lived two thousand years ago? He rose from the dead. Yeah, right. And that’s relevant to me . . . how? End of conversation. Here’s the problem: If we start with the beliefs we want others to hold and make that our focus, oftentimes we come across as people who aren’t listening properly. We’re just insisting that the world must change its position, to admit that it’s wrong, and we’re right. That’s a tough sell. No wonder we meet either resistance or apathy. What’s changed in our culture? Isn’t anyone interested in the truth anymore?! Well, frankly, I think that nowadays the world is asking a different question. At least, that’s how it seems to me. I wonder if you have noticed it too. In 2004, when I completed my Masters in Apologetics, I met the question, ‘Is it true?’ fairly often. And I was equipping myself to answer it. No longer. The question, ‘Is it true?’ doesn’t seem to be nearly as important as it once was. I’m not saying it’s not an important question. It is. But it seems the world has stopped asking it. Nowadays, you can spend hours explaining why the gospels are genuine, reliable documents, and a person on an Alpha or Christianity Explored course will often just look at you and say, ‘And? So what?’ It’s frustrating, but the reality is, the truth question no longer interests them nearly as much as it once did. Sadly nowadays, we’re offering excellent answers to questions they aren’t asking. That’s got to pull us up short. So who needs to change here? If we dig in our heels and say, ‘Well, they should change their question,’ we’ll end up whistling in the dark. Instead, we must, must focus on the question they are asking. Or we will never reach them with the gospel. What is that question? It’s some version of these two: What are you offering me? What do you have that I would want? Notice the individualism, the sense that even the big questions must submit to me, since I see myself as the centre of my world. Yet any discomfort over that must be set aside if we’re to listen to what’s really going on when people express these questions. They’re saying this: I have needs, I have desires, things I want. I also have struggles and I want to know that whatever religion-or-faith-or-whatever-it-is-you-want-me-to-believe, that it’s going to satisfy me. Help me understand why I should even listen to you. Everyone is selling something. You’ve got a religion you want to sell me? Then convince me why I should buy. So, there you are in the coffee shop. Your interlocutor has now vented about religion, and because you’ve listened well, the conversation turns to your life. You could employ euphemisms like ‘I lead group discussions,’ or go for some virtue signalling, ‘My church runs a food bank,’ but you want to share Jesus, and those two thousand years feel like an enormous unbridgeable gap. So instead, you remember how the Master did it. He always started by meeting people where they struggled, with the issues they faced, and he intuitively (and with staggering insight) was able to express love and compassion. Think of the woman at the well, Zacchaeus, the disabled man at the Pool of Bethesda, among many others. He even asked Bartimaeus, ‘what do you want me to do for you?’ The man was blind! And yet Jesus still asked what he wanted! Almost always, he started his interactions with questions. Because it’s by asking questions that we discover the desires of others. What they want, what they’re longing for. That’s where we should start. ‘If there were a God, what would you want from him?’ That might be your question. I know it may seem that we’re opening the door to selfish requests, but it’s not long before you will hear people express the longings of their hearts. Once they do, you will soon hear the kinds of desires that are shared by all human beings. They fit into (roughly) four categories: Love Happiness Significance Peace-and-Justice This isn’t an exhaustive list, of course, but it’s a start. Talk to anyone for long enough, and their struggles will start to rise to the top. A broken relationship. Job challenges. Family discord. Every single one will be based on unmet or frustrated desires. The world is not asking ‘does God exist?’ but ‘can he help me?’ Jesus has already asked the question, ‘what do you want?’ They are now answering, and they want to know that the God of the universe can satisfy their desires. Self-centred? Driven by sinful urges? Of course. We human beings, by our very nature, attempt to satisfy our desires in sinful and damaging ways. But as Jesus so often did, we, his followers, must listen well to be given any chance to respond. Let me say, as an aside, that I’m not rejecting the gospel message about forgiveness of sins. At some point during this conversation, the person’s position before God will have to be addressed. But not at the beginning. At the beginning, we should start with a person’s burdens, their lost dreams, their shattered hopes. There’s a reason why there are so few genuine atheists. Most people are open to the idea that a ‘higher power’ exists. But they want to know if that entity can help them satisfy their desires. The reality, of course, is that God has determined not to satisfy their most keenly felt desire, which is that he would end their suffering. That is in the future. Yet once that phase of the conversation has passed, there is tremendously good news that we can share. Love – what greater love can one imagine than the kind that leads a person to make the ultimate sacrifice to rescue those he loves? Happiness – what greater joy is there than knowing the one who made you, and who loves you with an everlasting love? Significance – how wonderful that whoever you are, you are essential to God’s story, with each of us given a role to play. Peace-and-Justice – one day, all evil will be judged. We long for justice, because justice is found in our creator, who will make all things right. Spend long enough, and a person’s desires will show you who they are. Spend long enough listening, and you may be given the opportunity to share the answer to the deep desires you’ve just heard expressed. But you must listen to a person’s desires first. PRAYER Even in this very secular culture that surrounds us, many people may also permit you to pray. It may sound crazy, but in the secular West, people like the idea of prayer. So, as the Spirit leads, offer to pray, and when you pray, start with their needs. As you leave the coffee shop today, you thank your new friend for listening (though you’ve probably done the lion’s share). You tell them, if they’re open to it, that you’ll continue to pray for their needs. Perhaps you’ll even pay for their cappuccino. This world is suffering, and it needs to hear about a God who cares, who suffers with and for us – one who is capable of satisfying our desires, even when they are perceived through sinful eyes. Offer any other God nowadays, and they won’t give him the time of day. Just as well our gospel is so powerful, so true, so glorious. For our God is not only the Truth, but also the Way and the Life. He satisfies every yearning of the human heart.

How do you see yourself? As a leader, I mean. We’re not all the same. We all have different gifts, our own way of expressing leadership. Perhaps some of us associate the word ‘leader’ with ‘power’ and therefore avoid thinking about a topic that’s seen as distasteful. Hold your horses, because however you think of leadership, at some point you must do business with the idea. In your own life. It cannot be avoided. It must be dealt with head on. Avoidance—which often involves pretence and denial—is the worst thing you can do. If you’re a leader whom God has called, he desires that you lead in a way that glorifies him. And if that’s true, you must give your own leadership some thought and attention. This is not self-centredness. It’s the kind of inward reflection necessary to grow, to become the leader God has called you to be. That’s why you’re reading this post. Because you’re visiting a ministry devoted to helping you become a better, more godly, leader. NOT A PERSON, A SERIES OF FUNCTIONS Leadership expert, Paul Ford, has trained hundreds of leaders during his life. He writes, Leadership is not a person, though we need a leader so that we all learn how to follow. Rather, leadership is a series of functions fulfilled by a group of people. [1] Just toss that thought around in your head for a moment. Leadership is a series of functions fulfilled by a group of people. Marcus Honeysett writes, Leadership in the New Testament is resolutely plural and collegial. The picture is of shepherds acting together, not of lone rangers. [2] First, we need to deal with the Jesus problem. Sounds odd, right? How can Jesus be a problem? Well, since all believers model their lives on Jesus, and none more so than leaders, then his competence and perfection can be misunderstood and mis-applied. It’s easy to see why leaders place such a burden on themselves. Jesus could do it all, why not me? Aren’t I supposed to be like him? Shouldn’t I try? Frankly, no. You were not designed to lead as Jesus led. Why? First, because he was inaugurating a kingdom, starting a movement, and training its future leaders. You, on the other hand, are leading a church. They are not the same. Second, because while you are called to be like him morally, you are not called to live the same life as him. His life and calling were unique to him, not a model for leading a church. But third, the impression that Jesus is ‘doing it all’ is simply wrong. If anything, he’s the ultimate equipping releaser, embodying a facet of leadership that will be essential to those he’s training. Hence the sending out of the 72. WHAT IS CHRISTIAN LEADERSHIP? So what comprises Christian leadership? This where the wisdom of Paul Ford comes in. He lists five functions of leadership as follows: Equipping Releaser Values Keeper Team Builder Active Listener Vision Sharers The five functions he mentions are all vital to the healthy leadership of a church community. They will either be done well, or done badly. But no one person can do them all. At least, not well. This is why it’s essential to understand these functions, and ensure they are done well in your community. By doing the first well: equipping releaser. Ephesians 4 is quite clear. So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, 12 to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up. Eph 4.11-12 It can’t escape your notice that St. Paul lists several functions for church leadership. Not one. Many. Which is why the first function, equipping releaser, is so important. If a church leader cannot delegate, then leadership becomes very difficult. The load can become too much to bear. It has often struck me how absurd it is that one leader is expected to fulfil all these functions. The kind of person who is good at organising is rarely the one who is good at casting vision, or preaching, or pastoring. These so clearly draw from different personality types, it makes perfect sense that these functions should be fulfilled by different people. A large, vision-casting platform speaker often lacks pastoral skills. The sensitive pastor often struggles to give a clear vision. They’re different jobs. Different functions. No wonder they’re suited to different people. That’s why it’s essential for a leader to delegate. To equip and release people within the community to fulfil these functions. To be honest, sometimes it’s enough simply to release. Especially if you don’t have the right gifts to do the equipping. Assign someone else to do the training. Delegate. I acknowledge that many church structures are not set up for this. They’re modelled on the single person senior pastor/vicar/priest role [3]. In many churches, the faithful look to the person at the top for everything. We need enormous change in most church cultures. But that doesn’t change the fundamental truth that leadership is a set of functions, not a person. If you remember nothing else from this short read, take that into your day. I would love for you to find relief from the burdens you’re carrying. Perhaps this can be a first step. Delegation isn’t easy, I know that. Especially in a community with long-held, rigid expectations of what the leader ‘is supposed to do.’ But with wisdom, and the Lord’s help, these functions can be shared out. They really can. But it takes courage. And the support of a team, who can help in re-thinking how these functions are expressed in your community. I pray today that as you read, the Lord will speak to you, that he will show you his desires for leadership in your church. For his glory. https://www.drpaulford.com/grip-review.htm Marcus Honeysett, Powerful Leaders? IVP. 2022. pastor/vicar/priest – these refer to the various leadership titles in our denominations